4 attitudes that you, man, need to break free!
Pornography Consumption
posted by Lorena
You may be a natural pornography consumer, and perhaps you have already entered the vicious cycle in an attempt to satisfy your desires, feeding the false sense of pleasure, contributing to an industry that does not respect and value bodies. Why does consuming pornography end up becoming a compulsion? During stimulation, the brain responds to sexual stimulation, releasing dopamine, a neurotransmitter mainly associated with the anticipation of rewards, which also acts in the programming of memories and information in the brain. For example, when you want something, food or sex, the brain remembers what it must do to get the same pleasure on previous occasions.
The more pornography you consume, the more you get into a frantic rhythm of wanting more "pleasure". It is a path that leaves you devitalized. In addition to encouraging the ill use of pornography.
Professor and scientist Gary Wilson reported that the brain that spends hours in contact with pornographic content, weekly and for many years, ends up reaching extremely high levels of stimulation, becoming more immune to everyday pleasures and increasingly receptive to pornography.
Concern about sexual performance
Many men end up based on the sex that is seen in pornography, where women are generally submissive to men and sex is focused exclusively on the genital organ. In addition to our society that brings this very strong issue that men must provide all pleasure for women, it is a cultural and social obligation that ends up generating a lot of tension.
How about getting out of control and thinking that you should always perform in bed (or have the illusion that you are in charge during the act). Sex is not a game, but it can be a dance the two of you can lead. Yes, you can also be receptive to the moment to receive caresses and caress, to experience touches on your body. Tantra is a derepressing philosophy that seeks connection through the sensory.
About broaching ...
This can happen, whether due to fear, low self-esteem, insecurity, trauma or blockages.
This is a topic that causes fear in 100% of the men I see. Many clients who come to the office report having already upset and felt bad about the situation, and this ends up reverberating in their future relationships, the fear and insecurity of happening again, the difficulty in controlling the intrusive thoughts that insist on taking over situation at the time, generating anxiety and lack of presence in the present moment, which contributes heavily to the lack of erection.
I strongly recommend that you do not focus exclusively on what happened, but on how to solve it so that you can feel good and confident. Realize what are the thoughts that come before and during sex, bring your attention to your body and breathing, try to keep your breathing deep and slow. Remembering that these tips do not rule out a consultation with the doctor to check the cause of the lack of erection. Therapeutic work combined with conventional medicine is highly successful in this case.
The genital organ is the center of attention.
Your body has great potential to be discovered, this potential is reduced only to the genital organ, which in most cases provides a quick experience and a feeling of relief. Ejaculation becomes a sneeze, literally.
The body has erogenous zones that can be stimulated through touch. Through this stimulus, the body receives new orgasmic sensations, however, we associate orgasm with an activity exclusively of the genital organ, which is a myth. The whole body has this orgasmic potential, what is necessary to achieve these variations in orgasm is stimulation, delivery, presence in the body itself.
Have you explored your body to the point of allowing yourself to experience an orgasmic sensation that was not just in the genital?
If the answer was never, it is worrying! You grew up in the dictatorship of phallocentrism. Now you have the opportunity to unlearn what you have learned to relearn differently!
And know that you can count on my work to help you on this pleasant journey.