The inner strength to be vulnerable

Tantric intimacy has the potential to connect us completely. We let our guard down and allow all of our selves to flow to someone else when we receive it fully. This creates an apparently magical circuit of loving energy that can take us to infinite and wonderful places.

This is very simple to say and completely natural for us to do.

However, we struggle. How can we be safe to do that? How can I be open if I don't know if I can totally trust this other person? What if I get hurt? What if I surrender completely and my heart breaks?

These fears keep our walls up and the magic of this kind of open, fluid connection escapes us, no matter how much Tantra is studied.

Its internal connection makes it complete

"Be humble, because you are made of earth. Be noble, because you are made of stars ”.

The foundation of tantra is always our personal spiritual connection. Regardless of how you define God / Spirit / Consciousness / Zen, it is our deep and confident connection to this mystery that brings us great inner strength (and humility).

As the proverb above says, we are made of the earth and the stars. What does this mean for you? What does it mean to be made of stars? The beauty of tantra, is that it encompasses the two aspects of the human being and combines them, to create the whole beings that we should be.

For some of us, we get lost in the movements of everyday life, in jobs, in relationships, with children, in politics, in fears, in hopes, etc. All of these things exist in the three-dimensional physical world in which we live. They are very real. They offer incredible opportunities for joy, growth, pain and greatness from other incredible experiences.

But we are more than that.

In some way, we are also mysteries, infinite, everything, everyone, nothing, all powerful and omniscient. This reality is not really possible to understand with our brain, because our brain belongs to the physical world. And our language best describes the things that happen in this world.

The magic of tantra is the ability to combine these two worlds, to live within our physical bodies, at our specific point in space-time continuity, and also to know that infinite energy and possibilities flow through us every second.

That's when we really become tantric.

"The only constant thing is change ”Heráclito

When we feel this deep connection within us, we become strong, regardless of our circumstances. The world around us (including those we choose to love), is always changing. That is the human condition. We are naturally in a constant state of change, growth and flow.

Tantric intimacy teaches that kindness and respect are the basis of every loving connection. But while we can be careful in the way we treat others, those we love may struggle with this because of their previous education and experience. So, how can we still open without risking being hurt?

We cultivate that deep inner spiritual connection.

You can do this through whichever path works for you. It may be through the works of mystics of all religions. Mystics always seek a direct experience of God. It can be through meditation and mindfulness, it can be running or riding, whatever it is, connecting with that deep, peaceful place where you can feel the quiet and listen to your own personal guidance.

When we cultivate that deep connection, we find divine courage. This courage comes from within and helps us to have faith, to take steps in our life that are new, exciting and possibly a little scary, but the beautiful thing is that courage came from within. This means that if it doesn't work as planned, we will also have that strength on the other side of the experience. This strength will give us the meditative mind to observe what happened with understanding and compassion. The experience will not break us, even if it hurts. We will feel the growth and expansion of what happened, instead of focusing on the pain.

This divine courage is what takes us to incredible places at every stage of our tantric journey.

Fusion becomes easy

When we have that deep connection within us, we are able to walk the world without fear. We know that we are not alone. We are strong, but completely humble.

So, when we meet someone we love, be it a friend, son or lover, it is easy to be open with them. It is easy to share who we really are. We do not need to put up facades or pretend that we are something that we are not. We let them see directly in our souls. Because, of course, we know that we are all made of the same material. Our soul is just like theirs.

Of course, we also have discernment, because we are already complete, we do not feel the need to merge with everyone. In fact, it is not really recommended. There are many people who don't really want to merge that way. They just want to be close to you, but to remain emotionally apart. This is amazing. We also feel that way at times, but there will also be times when someone will appear in our life and a true and beautiful connection will be possible and desired, and then we can sit down with personal strength, let go of our guards and let them in. We can experience the beautiful flow that is possible between humans.

True tantric connection.