Frustration on the way to finding one's own soul.

Nobody said it would be easy or difficult to find the soul again. Usually people who have already found it don't confess the details of the path, so others who are on the search create expectations. After all, Tantra says to first purify the body and feel pleasure. However, the word purification carries a burden: if it is necessary to purify it is because there is the weight of various situations, there are repressions, conditioning and blockages of both the body and the mind. There is a veiled sadness.

And here comes the reality when participating in a group or being in a session: at the end there can be a feeling of frustration, precisely due to the presence of conditioning and blockages.

Still, there's time to use frustration to your advantage, before it builds up until a "next opportunity."

Frustration can be one of the spaces that the soul has to reinvent itself: looking at the illusion of expectation created and tasting the real, and from there there is the possibility of a new path. This time the path can be walked maturely, having learned that there really is a journey to be traveled and not a miracle to be prayed for.

In fact, many people confuse the idea that suffering is bad with the idea that eliminating suffering is healthy. Sometimes you don't even know the depth of what you suffered, but in that confusion, the result is maturation. This maturation is the direct offspring of pain, frustration and sadness, but if there is confusion the maturation disappears.

So, how to mature and feel pleasure? It's not putting aside the journey, but grabbing the courage to move on and confirm the decision made before - I want it, I deserve it - and then mature. It is part of the foundations of Original Tantra: wanting, desiring, taking responsibility.

Yes, it takes courage to observe, like a movie, that it is not a single frustration, but an accumulation of unmet challenges in life, desires that were gradually being neglected.

In therapy I ask: how many times has something similar happened and you abandoned it, was “letting go”? How many times has life been left out?

An athlete does not reach the podium without training. It takes discipline. It is from this that the body recognizes and remodels itself, gets used to new sensations, muscles awake, recognized and reconnected. There is someone who has already walked and is walking the path, guiding someone who wants to be in a better condition.

In treatment in a pleasure therapy, something similar happens: two people meet, willing to come face to face to start something new, sometimes to search and most of the time to overcome what led one of them to seek therapy.

Challenges are set. There is indeed an initial mismatch, how could it be otherwise?

In the beginning there is a lot of suffering involved. Much of this suffering is omitted by both speech and body. Why? A number of reasons, but remember conditioning and blockages. So, to unravel it takes time.

And then it is possible to deconstruct and reach a new truth from the emotional experience of contact with oneself: in your hatreds, your anguish, your sadness, your apathy, your new movement, your desires and finally your real pleasures.

What is sold today in movies, series, documentaries, marketing, unfortunately leads people to believe that sex therapy is just a source of immediate relief for their emergency pains such as lack of pleasure. That way, with one session (?!), everything will be quickly organized, like a kind of miracle cure.

And there is also a term for this desire: Furor Curandis, meaning the excessive desire for healing. However, in practice, in each session, in each meeting, what will guide the therapist and the person who seeks to resolve their issues, without a doubt, is the reduction of anguish. In other words, it will exist and it is through it that all the affections and emotional turbulences that move suffering and frustrations emerge.

In this way, frustration, when well trodden, exposes other anxieties, passing and then unraveling the path of fulfilled desires and pleasure.