The woman who wants to please in sex

I recently saw a girl who had very few sexual experiences in her life, despite being 38 years old. She never took pleasure in relations with her ex-husband or in the other two experiences.

What caught my attention the most is that she did not come to me to deal with the question of her pleasure, but to learn how to do tantric massage on a man. She came to learn how to give pleasure to the man.

It is very generous of her. We women are generous. The problem is that it went far beyond generosity. Her primary concern was to please a future partner who didn't even exist yet!

Her pleasure was in the second (or was it third, or fourth?) Plan.

I had to point this out to her. And to say how much we women place ourselves in second place, not only in sex, but in many things in life.

Throw the first stone at the woman who never did that. The woman who was never more concerned with satisfying the man in bed than with having her own pleasure. The woman who was never afraid to manifest a sexual fantasy for fear of being judged by her partner and displeasing him. The woman who was never afraid to have sex on the first date and be frowned upon.

It is sad and very real. That's what we learned.

Shall we change that? We are together.