The loneliness

The darkness of loneliness cannot be fought directly. This is something essential that everyone should understand: there are some fundamental things that cannot be changed. And this is one of them: you cannot fight darkness directly, loneliness directly, fear of isolation directly. The reason is that none of these things exist; they are simply absences from something, just as darkness is the absence of light.

So what do you do when you don't want the room to be dark? You don't do anything directly with the darkness - or do you? You cannot push it out. There is no possibility of creating any scheme for the darkness to disappear. You must do something with the light. And that changes the whole situation. That is why I call it something essential, a foundation ... You don't even touch the darkness; you don't think about her. There is no reason; it does not exist, it is only an absence.

So just bring light to the place and you will no longer find darkness, because it was the absence of light, simply the absence of light - not something material, with your own being, not something that exists. But simply because the light was not there, you had a false sense of darkness.

You can go on struggling with the darkness all your life and you will not be successful, but only a small candle is enough to disperse it. You need to work for the light because it is positive, existential; it exists on its own. And once the light comes, anything that was absent disappears.

- OSHO

Loneliness is similar to darkness.
You don't know your aloneness. You have not experienced solitude and its beauty, its tremendous power, its strength. Solitude and loneliness are synonyms in the dictionary, but existence does not follow dictionaries. And no one has yet tried to make an existential dictionary that would not contradict existence.

Loneliness is absence.
Because you don't know your aloneness, there is fear. You feel alone and then you want to get attached to something, to someone, to some relationship, just to maintain the illusion that you are not alone. But you know you are - hence the pain. On the one hand, you are clinging to something that is not real, that is just a temporary arrangement - a relationship, a friendship.

And while you are in a relationship, you can create a small illusion to forget your loneliness. But this is the problem: although you may forget your loneliness for a moment, the next moment you suddenly become aware that the relationship or friendship is not permanent. Yesterday, you didn't know this man or this woman, you were strangers. Today, you are friends - who knows tomorrow? Tomorrow you may be strangers again - hence the pain.

Illusion gives some comfort, but it cannot create reality so that all fears disappear. It suppresses fear, so on the surface you feel good - at least you try to feel good. You pretend to feel good about yourself: how wonderful this relationship is, how wonderful this man or woman is. But behind the illusion - and the illusion is so thin that you can see yourself through it - there is pain in the heart, because the heart knows perfectly well that tomorrow things may not be the same ... and they are not the same.

- OSHO

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