Love yourself!

It is common for people to make things that we do not want to grow, gain a much greater importance than they have, when we cannot stop thinking about them, when they distress and occupy us with emotions and the mental screen for a long time. Whether they are problems, or defects that we believe we have, judgments, criticisms, attitudes that we condemn ...

Where our attention is located is our energy. And what gets attention grows. So, what if instead of giving so much attention to what we dislike and what we don't want for ourselves, we do exactly the opposite? If we change the look on certain situations and characteristics in a more mature way?

We can start with the look we give ourselves, for example. We can usually be quite tough, critical and even cruel when looking at who we are. Where does this need for perfection come from? Why do we have a hard time accepting ourselves as we are? In valuing this little thing?

We have so many things that can be valued, but we end up emphasizing what we consider negative most of the time.

Look at you and see if you are:

• Respectful, has consideration, appreciation, care, zeal, attention and affection for people. • Intelligent, smart, shrewd, creative, inventive, sensible, prudent. • Friend (a), companion, partner, loyal, cordial, true, trustworthy, understanding. • Fun and good-humored. • Vital, has disposition, takes care , has determination, will to live. • Available to notice his mistakes, he is not arrogant, he is able to look at himself. • He is mature enough to deal with his emotional ups and downs, to deal with his instability. • He is independent, he does not put his life in the hands of others. • He is effective. • He is responsible, he has the ability to respond to a situation and relate to it. • He has empathy, is tolerant and humane. • Has honesty. • Generous, dedicated.

If you do not have the vast majority of these characteristics, so what? They're just random examples

for you to value if you have them. If not, there are certainly many other things to admire. Just notice them, see yourself.

Acceptance is about the whole being. Nobody is made only of what is admired. Knowing, recognizing and accepting our difficulties, imperfections and vulnerabilities is part of the package. Only through self-knowledge can we polish ourselves. Therefore, that we can be happy to know each part of us that we don't like, for each discovery of knowing what it is like, for perceiving in us the marks of our history that still cause us some pain, and are even etched in our structure. body. May we be happy to be able to open up to new possibilities of functioning in the world from observing our acquired habits, our cultural characteristics, which we have been taught, and being able to start acting on our own.

That we can focus on what is really important for each of us. Putting our attention and our energy on the right path, realizing what gives meaning to our lives and allowing us to live today, the experiences we want and make our hearts vibrate, and that whenever hard and emasculating thoughts come upon us , that we ask ourselves: “Where does this voice come from? Mom? Father? Family? Society? School? Religion?"

Perceive, analyze, think, reflect, and give back if it is not yours. But if you think it is worth doing something with that thought, try to eliminate the repression, harshness and judgment that he carries, and use it lovingly.

I believe that the idea that we can only donate what is left over, what overflows in us, is a great truth. And to donate love, just having a lot of self-love.

On page 19 of Osho's book “Love, freedom and solitude”, it says:

"Love yourself

Do not condemn yourself. You have been condemned too much and have accepted all that condemnation. Now, you keep getting hurt. Nobody considers himself worthy enough, nobody considers himself a beautiful creation of God, nobody thinks that it is necessary. These ideas are poisonous, but you have been poisoned, poisoned with your mother's milk, and that has been your whole past. Humanity has lived under a dark cloud of self-condemnation. If you condemn yourself, how can you develop, how can you become mature? And if you condemn yourself, how can you venerate existence? If you cannot worship and existence within yourself, you will be unable to worship existence in others; it will be impossible. ”

And on page 23 of the same book, it says:

“First: Love yourself and watch today, tomorrow and always.

Create a loving energy around you. Love your body, love your mind, love your whole mechanism, your whole organism. To love means to accept as it is. Do not try to suppress. We repress only when we hate something, when we are against something. Do not repress, because if you repress, how will you observe? And we can't look the enemy in the eye; we can only look into the eyes of our beloved. If you don't love yourself, you won't be able to look in your own eyes, in your own face, in your own reality. ”

Beautiful, true and deep right? It makes perfect sense to me. Soooo much love for us!