love x emptiness

How we are in need of affection, attention, affection. In adulthood, we want to receive affectionate responses and are caught up in the frustration of not being responded to in the way we would like. Over time we start to reject the feeling we have for the other so as not to feel pain for the non-correspondence, but in fact, fighting the feeling is what makes us suffer, perhaps surrendering to the true feeling, whatever it may be without the need to possess , having, touching, would be the best way to enjoy the good that is to feel something for someone. Control causes, most of the time, lack of control to happen. The ego often takes us away from pleasure, the pleasure that is simply feeling, being present in reality, without illusion, without fantasy. Simply being present in what really belongs to us, which is what we feel.

The lack of love, attention, affection in childhood causes us to become dissatisfied adults, "with a bottomless hole" and that leaves us without direction or "emotional" plumb. But actually our inner child is asking to be seen, to be welcomed and loved.

How many things go through the minds of fathers and mothers all the time, concern for children, with the present and future needs and this is all for love, so there is dedication and a lot of care, but not in the way the children would like it to be and this does that they grow up believing they have not been seen and loved, and so as adults our inner child manifests unmet needs. The way an adult expresses their love for their children is often different from the way a child would like to receive, so adults and children express themselves in different ways, different from the way the other needs and expects, and the needs are never met because we don't learn to look at the other as he really is, but how we would like him to be and/or the way we handle it. And unfortunately we end up leaving this giant hole of lack and expectations of being loved in our children, and as adults we carry this, all our lives being always dissatisfied trying to cover a hole left behind and pouring it into others, generating expectations in which we develop frustration in relationships in general. A cycle... A simple gesture of attention is what a person, whether adult or child, needs to feel belonging, safe and loved.

The protection we've developed is so great that we can't see what's in front of us. Sometimes we can even see, but we can't act...we get paralyzed. How to clearly demonstrate if we do not know or, purely, deliver ourselves...