Anorgasmia (Lack of Orgasms)

The inequality of orgasms between men and women is not just an individual problem. 75% of men regularly reach orgasm in sexual relations with their partners, but only 29% of women do so.

Two-thirds of women have orgasms from time to time or never. But orgasm inequality, while recognized, is rarely discussed. It is simply accepted as being the way sex is.

For centuries, women were deprived of orgasm, as it was not linked to procreation. Only later was the female orgasm admitted, but with great caution. And the woman who achieved joy without love was considered a nymphomaniac.

The inability to reach orgasm is called Anorgasmia and is the most common female sexual dysfunction. Statistics indicate that there are only 25% of orgasmic women and 75% of women who have some type of difficulty in reaching orgasm.

However, our experience proves that all women are capable of orgasms, unless they are suffering from a neurological and dysfunctional, endocrinological or gynecological disease, which has destroyed or compromised the physical basis of orgasm. Most of the causes are of a psychological nature or of inability and ignorance, yours or your partner's in dealing with your body.

Psychological factors that can inhibit orgasm

* Taboos and prejudices that compromise active participation in the sexual act;
* Ignorance of one’s own body and the partner’s body;
* Each partner must learn to know their own body and develop the ability to adequately express the conditions and stimuli that favor them towards orgasm;
* Unconscious conflicts evoked by erotic sensations;
* Feelings of guilt regarding sexuality;
* Fear of surrender to the partner;
* Hostility towards the partner;
* Fear of giving in to strong and unknown sensations (excitement only reaches a certain point, not allowing the plateau phase to be reached, which is the maximum level of excitement necessary to trigger orgasm);
* Excessive concern about reaching orgasm, which generates anxiety, preventing relaxation, which is essential to trigger it.

Some women tend to deny the importance of orgasm in an effort to adapt to dysfunction, taking advantage of only the non-orgasmic aspects of the relationship. When they are repeatedly frustrated for some time, they end up being uninterested in sex.

In some cases, the woman's distress due to her inability to reach orgasms, anticipates failure when she starts making love, causing enough disturbance to give rise to a secondary frigidity or general lack of sexual response, which cannot be completely restored unless she learns to release her inhibited orgasmic reflex.

Relationships have not favored a woman's orgasm

Men have a lot of responsibility for a woman's orgasm. Studies show that 80% of the time the man penetrates the woman before she is duly ready and prepared for the sexual act.

In the conventional sexual act, the man privileges the penetration and develops obsessive compulsive aspects, generating much anxiety to penetrate soon.

Most men stick to the myth of masculinity, entering the sexual act as if they were fulfilling the mission of defending the macho attitudes that were wrongly passed on to them by the male models of their ancestors and reinforced by the social ignorance that permeates the subject - proving that it is "male".

Added to this is the dread that men have of "failing" at "hour H", of the penis not being erect, of imagining "evaluated" in its performance, as if its behavior was judged by an examining board. Or to boast about actions, almost always mediocre, for completely ignoring the anatomical and physiological aspects of the vagina or the neurofunctional reflexes of the woman's body, being unable to perceive the woman's reactions to her stimuli.

Men do not yet know how to share the exchange of erotic pleasures that gradually energize and energize energy, opening paths for neurotransmitter receptors to provide the conditions for the female orgasm to happen.

Men are subjected to the primitive expression of sex, which determines that the expulsion of sperm occurs as quickly as possible. The frequency of the penis coming and going is fast, the penetration is deep, the rhythm is frequent, the attention is concentrated in the vagina, until quickly, in a short time, the man ejaculates, without the woman experiencing minimal pleasure, to the point of fluidizing and producing the emollience of your intravaginal muscles and the production of the hormones responsible for orgasm.

In NeoTantra, adherents learn that penetration is only recommended after proving the physiological responses that occur in the vagina. We teach adepts how to achieve successive orgasms of different plateaus. After the fluidization and total softening phase, they can finally penetrate the penis slowly and circularly, without the compulsive anxiety characteristic of normotic sex. Circular penetration, slow and constant, allows contact with the entire vaginal wall in its depth, including internal points that have innervation with the clitoris, such as the Grafenberg Gland (G-spot).

There are concomitant procedures, through which it is possible for women to experience orgasms also in conjunction with penetration.

In relation to two, when the man dedicates himself, with special care, to taking his partner to experience the phases of the “high plateaus”, he contributes to the elevation of pleasure and the climax of orgasm, to higher levels, leading to woman experiencing the state of superconsciousness.

There are statistics showing that women who have sex with a female partner have a great advantage over male partners - they enjoy it 83% of the time. It is then characterized that the big problem comes down to the way heterosexual sex is practiced and the fact that men are totally unaware of the female body and the needs for specific and appropriate stimuli that women need.

Some findings from Shere Hite

“The Hite Report”, an in-depth study of human sexuality, carried out by Shere Hite, reports that women who have never enjoyed themselves often feel depressed or injured because they know they are missing out on great pleasure.

Hite and the greatest scholars of human sexuality claim that the best way for a woman to learn to come is through masturbation.

Today, therapists accredited by Comunna Metamorfose teach men and women to discover a potential different from their body, when they learn new ways to increase the degree of satisfaction and pleasure in their own body and in the body of their partners.

Sex is learning.

Women are no less orgasmic than men, on the contrary. They are physically capable of multiple orgasms, dry orgasms and even ejaculations that occur in conjunction with orgasm.

Men and women need to invest in experimentation and their sensory development, exploring the pleasure characteristics not only of the erogenous parts of their body, but also in other areas of the senses.

These new sensory points can be awakened after a certain period of stimulation. We learned that a certain type of stimulation is needed, at the specific location and at the right time. Partners need to know these erogenous points and dedicate themselves to producing the right stimuli, in the appropriate period of time, so that the results of arousal can expand until the outbreak of orgasm.

In many places the idea still prevails that sexual pleasure was not invented for women, only for men. In many Muslim countries, for example, girls' clitoris are removed in an attempt to prevent them from coming into contact with sexual pleasure.

Men who have freed themselves from the myth of masculinity and managed to penetrate the female atmosphere, understood that it is important that their partners achieve greater quality of orgasm and pleasure, to enjoy a healthy and friendly relationship, without the conventional neuroses that are an obstacle to the perpetuation of good relations.

Do women fake orgasms?

The number of women who pretend to orgasm as a way of pleasing their partners is very large. They lack the authenticity of pleasure and, consequently, men do not change their conformist behavior in relation to their disabilities and limitations, to provide sexual quality to their relationships.

It is very rare to find a woman who has never feigned an orgasm. 35% of women systematically pretend for different reasons, in order not to be considered cold and incapable, or to not disappoint their partners.

And does the man also suffer from the absence of orgasms?

The most common form of lack of male orgasms is erectile dysfunction, also known as sexual impotence. It is defined by the inability to obtain or maintain an erection and is the most common sexual dysfunction.

There are psychological and organic causes. In the 90s, research in search of solutions to the problem reached sildenafil, marketed under the name of Viagra. It is a medication administered orally that facilitates the erection, but it is necessary that there is the sexual stimulus or desire, otherwise the erection does not happen.

Whenever you talk about the absence of orgasm, you immediately think about the woman. In many cases, it can also happen that often, despite the erection occurring normally, a man may also not achieve orgasm in a sexual relationship. It is more or less recurrent that some men have an inhibition of the ejaculatory reflex, defined as delayed ejaculation, identified as an excessive and often compulsive delay, characterized by difficulties in obtaining ejaculation and orgasm.

Man associated orgasm with the ejaculatory reflex, although they survive distinctly and independently. An orgasm can occur – or even multiple orgasms, without ejaculation, just as ejaculations can occur without the occurrence of orgasms. Even flaccid penises are susceptible to ejaculation with or without sperm. This is unknown to the common man. It's a big paradigm shift, but it's what we've always observed in our experience with men who receive massage using the Deva Nishok method.

There are different types of orgasms for men and women. The most common and frequent are those of a psychogenic nature, which require the stimulation of fantasy and imagination. These orgasms were conditioned in the body as a result of masturbation.

The most intense orgasms are those that are experienced after the bioelectric maneuvers are triggered in the body through Sensitive Massage. These bioelectric orgasms, which affect the muscles in their muscle chains, cause a frantic triggering of impulses, articulated in an upward direction, up to the top of the head.

These orgasms, identified as Valley Orgasms, are the orgasms offered in our massages in the Deva Nishok Method, which is based on the stimulation of key points that intensify the production of the hormones responsible for the reflex neuromuscular explosion, which spread throughout the body. in a high dose of orgasmic electricity.

Doctors, psychologists and psychiatrists tend to underestimate the importance of orgasm. Even because, for them, there is not much to do in order to guide patients to a healthy sexual practice that implies the perfect interaction of couples. There are ethical issues that prevent proper guidance, adding to the absence and / or lack of knowledge of adequate therapeutic procedures to solve the problem.

Sadhana Comunna Metamorfose developed a methodology based on research it has been carrying out since 1996 with human sexuality, offering its clients the experience of therapeutic orgasm. An orgasm offered based on the development of sensory skills without sexual connotations. Thousands of people, men, women and couples, have already had the experience of experiencing the orgasm offered through Tantra.

We are pleased to teach our customers the methodologies we apply, helping couples to overcome their difficulties in the pursuit of pleasure and full sexual fulfillment.

Our treatment for Anorgasmia (lack of orgasms):

At Sadhana Comunna Metamorfose, through the Deva Nishok Method, we developed a methodology where the therapist feels the areas of least reaction and conducts the stimuli in such a way that sensitizes the frozen and neutral areas, restoring sensitivity and muscular reflexes. The body responds with physiological signals that are identified by the therapist.

With paced movements and reflexes, our therapeutic process “opens the way” so that the path of sensory information can reach the brain and the pleasure decoding center. In many people - men and women, this path is compromised by belief structures that affect the quality of sensory and motor transmissions, responsible for our perception and the production of organic material in response to stimuli.

In orgasm, the main organic components are hormones.

Without the production and intensification of hormones, there is no pleasure, and neither are the sexual responses necessary to produce the orgasm experience.

Our work operates in two lines: the first, in the adequate hormonal production and the second, in the activation of neuronal connections that restore the proper functioning of muscles and glands associated with sexual pleasure.

For customers who wish to reestablish orgasm or enhance their pleasure, we recommend that they properly follow our recommendation according to the criteria and order of the massages we offer:

Do some Sensitive Massage sessions first. This massage works to open the sensory channels of the muscles and tissues of our body. It improves and improves the expansion of new muscle chains associated with orgasm, greatly intensifying the orgastic experience.

When the therapist considers that your muscles and tissues already react well to the stimuli produced by Sensitive Massage, perform some Ecstasy Massage sessions. The therapist then produces a large amount of bioelectricity and conducts the electrical experience to the muscles of the genitals, enhancing and increasing the quality and intensity of pleasure and orgasm. This massage also works to prepare adequate muscle tone in the sexual muscles, preparing them for greater pleasure experiences. Our studies over the years have shown that people who have difficulty orgasming or orgasm too quickly do not have adequate muscle tone to sustain a high experience of pleasure and orgasm. The Ecstasy Massage will tone your sexual muscles: in women, the clitoris, vulva and intra-vaginal muscles, including the Grafemberg gland. In men, the penis, the perineum, the ligaments that connect the penis to the pubic bone.

After a series of sessions with Total Ecstasy Massage, you will be ready to live the experiences at Lingam or Yoni Massage. In this phase, your sexual muscles will be prepared to produce a sensory material more pertinent to Hyperorgasm and to higher states of perception and awareness.