How pornography spoils your sex Part 2 - The lies

The stage industry lives on fantasy. Porn is no different. In every film, be it romance, adventure, horror, everything happens in a way that doesn't happen in real life.
The problem is that in porn we believe and think that all that is possible. And then we compare ourselves and we think we have a problem because we need more time to have an orgasm, not having a huge penis, not having an erection every now and then or not having female ejaculation.

In pornography, no woman takes long to come. There the woman enjoys several times in less than 10 seconds without even receiving an oral sex.
There the man never loses his erection and does not need to do anything to have and give pleasure other than to penetrate vigorously and do some strong thrusts. Magically, the person penetrated by him has immediate pleasure.
When it comes to real life, with a real person (who is not just a body) it is different. Most women need at least 20 minutes of stimulation for pleasure and most men will experience momentary episodes of erection loss for a variety of reasons. 

Of course, you are often pumped with lust and the sex is sensational. This is wonderful and can happen often. But there are also those days or phases of life when your sexual energy is at its lowest. In real life everything fluctuates and sex is no different.
The point is that many times, when a person does not have the "performance" of the porn movie, they think they have a problem. She feels less or less. He starts to think about it and the problem becomes real. It turns into a vicious circle that destroys libido.

What I mean is: Don't rely on pornography. A lot of what is there is a lie and the actors act on drugs.
Be based on the amount of pleasure you feel. Based on the exchange you can have with the human being you are having sex with. Look at the person in front of you and look at you as real people with your preferences and tastes, your stories, your ways of functioning and enjoying yourself.