How to bring the foundations of tantric sex into the bedroom

Do you associate the word 'Tantra' with hippies, orgies, promiscuity and sex marathons? Or maybe that episode of Sex & The City comes to mind – you know, the one where Charlotte is worried about her bedroom skills, so the girls end up in a very hands-on tantric sex class?

Here's the truth: in skirting the topic of tantric sex, pop culture references to the practice are not an accurate reflection of Tantra.

The Western interpretation of Tantra is very different from the origins of the practice. At its core, Tantra is a tradition where awakening is sought through embodiment and union is sought through relationship and intimacy. Sexual union is just one of the vehicles for this awakening – and it's the one the West focuses on. Tantric discipline is also about allowing all feelings to be met with equal acceptance and allowing each person to become deeply sensitive to what they are feeling.

When it comes to tantric sex, we can all learn from this practice and bring its essentials into the bedroom, including you. See how:

it starts with you.

You don't need a partner to practice Tantra. Tantra isn't just about sex - it's a way of life that celebrates sexuality. Tantra encourages the individual to cultivate a deep inner union with himself, allowing him to feel completely whole. When we feel whole, we can enter into a union without asking our partner to fill our glass (because our glass is already overflowing!). To practice Tantra, start by committing to joy and connection in your life as an individual.

set the dinner .

To create a sacred space for meaningful and connected tantric sex, strive to create a special area for intimacy. This could mean investing in pretty clothes, lighting a candle, or even finding an inspiring (private) place in nature.

Focus on connection.

Relaxation, breathing, eye contact, uninhibited creativity and heart-to-heart connection are some of the central pillars of tantric sex; if that seems like a lot, start small. Could you take a deep belly breath before starting to promote a sense of relaxation? Could you try harder to make eye contact with your partner during sex? Could you spend some time imagining your heart radiating out towards your partner? Could you be more adventurous? Don't worry about getting everything right on your tantric sexual journey - you can start by focusing on one area. The key? Just get started!