Clear, sincere and objective communication

Have you noticed how many relationship problems are caused by a lack of clear, sincere and objective communication?

Many of us have been taught not to really say what we are thinking or feeling, whether by etiquette, a false idea of ​​respect or protection to avoid exposing ourselves.

We ended up forgetting the diversity of life, how different we are from each other, and what is very clear to me, according to my vision, for the other may not make the least sense.

We end up wanting what is obvious to our eyes to be seen as obvious by everyone. And that's not how things work. Sometimes we feel that the other has an obligation to realize that we don't feel good about a certain attitude, that the person was rude and hit us on purpose, that he intentionally did something to hurt us, that the attitudes of everyone around us have to do with us. And not. It does not have.

It is very common for couples to spend days in a terrible climate without knowing what caused an argument. One of the two felt affected by the other's speech or attitude, often due to issues that do not exist and the “causative” person did not even notice. The one who felt hit closes, closes his expression, starts to treat the other harshly, stops living pleasant moments because he felt hurt and was unable to communicate.

We are all different. We think, function, perceive and interact with the world around us in different ways. Realizing this is the key to understanding that the other is under no obligation to understand a situation in the same way that I do.

Our worldview has to do with our life history, with our ancestry, with countless factors that have been building in us a personality, which brings with it its pains, wounds, scars, fragilities ...

And when we are hit at these points, we tend to believe that the other has done something on purpose to hurt us. And often the other person doesn't even imagine what happened.

If we don't communicate, we expose our vision, we get the wrong impression. It is very important to exchange this information with people close to you, whom we love, or who have a constant relationship, so that we can clarify situations and maintain mental, emotional and relationship health.

Just as when we read about an accusation, or hear someone speak ill of another person, we must understand that it is only a version of the facts, that we should not take this information as absolute truths, because we do not know the whole truth. history, so it is in our relationships. It is not enough to just feel one way and take that as an absolute truth.

Give yourself a chance to talk, open up to dialogue and understand the other person's view of the same situation. You will find that you may be very surprised by the information that the other person brings. And that it can give you a wonderful understanding that not everything is how we felt it was. That we often create imaginary situations in our minds and that our relationships, when we can communicate well, can be much lighter, more pleasant and more truthful.

Allow yourself to hear the other versions, widen your field of vision and, consequently, improve your relationships.