Details about Sexual Dysfunctions, Lack of Libido, G-Spot and Female Ejaculation:

Sexual activity is an extremely complex process, being composed of an interconnection of several organic systems (neurological, endocrine and vascular), psychological states, socio-cultural and religious characteristics. It is heavily influenced by diverse morbid states, aging, relationships and past experiences. Any changes in this wide range of factors can lead to changes in the various stages of the sexual process.

* It is estimated that 19% to 50% of women have sexual dysfunctions. This number extends to 68% to 75% when sexual dissatisfactions not related to sexual dysfunctions are included. *

Sexual dysfunctions in women are classified into: dysfunctions of desire, arousal, orgasm and sexual pain (dyspareunia and vaginismus).

Causes of Sexual Dysfunctions:

Psychological Causes:

* Anxiety

* Depression

* Relationship conflicts

* Fatigue

* Fault

* Stress and financial problems

* Sexual identity conflicts

Physical Causes:

* Side effects (drugs, surgery or trauma)

* Hormonal problems

* Injuries to the brain or spinal cord

* Drugs (alcohol, tobacco, narcotics)

* Cholesterol

* diabetes

Lack of Libido: Libido is an energetic charge that originates from sexuality as a whole. Many people think that sexuality is located only in the genital tract, which is not true. Libido is an energy that makes individuals seek the fulfillment of their basic needs, such as hunger, for example, and also all forms of pleasure. Thus, part of the libido is repressed or destroyed through social repressive mechanisms, part is displaced to other human acts such as studying, making art, working or other activities that we consider important throughout our lives, and the last part is available for pleasure sexual. Libido is the energy that moves human beings to relate to objects, to the environment or to other people, of the same or opposite sex. If it weren't for libido, the human being would not start his relationship with the world and would not value it. It is this energy that ensures that children start to play, to move around to explore the reality around them. Libido also means limits, being aware of the limits around us, recognizing what is forbidden, what is dangerous, or what is acceptable, what is free. The ability to channel the libido to the outside world is fundamental for the balance of the human being. Problems in this channeling can cause socialization failures, such as autism, self-harm, compulsive masturbation and other behavioral disorders. In common language, libido can be understood as "will" and to better understand this concept we can use our everyday expressions: "I'm not in the mood"; "Without will there is no solution". These forms of expression signal the importance of libido in all of our actions. Libido is a term that means will and desire. The lack of libido in women is related to frigidity or insensitivity to sexually based stimuli. Many diseases, including mental and psychosomatic, can be related to the lack or loss of libido, such as: depression, anorexia, cirrhosis, hemochromatosis, hypogonadism and others. On the other hand, there are diseases that result in an excessive increase in libido, such as: obsession or OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), bipolar disorder, hyperthyroidism and syphilis. Some medications and many drugs also cause changes in libido. A pathological increase in libido is also known as sex addiction or nymphomania, satiriasis or sexual compulsion.

Missing or missing orgasms (Anorgasmia)

The inequality of orgasms between men and women is not just an individual problem. 75% of men regularly reach orgasm in sexual relations with their partners, but only 29% of women do so. Two-thirds of women have orgasms from time to time or never. But orgasm inequality, while recognized, is rarely discussed. It is simply accepted as being the way sex is. For centuries, women have been deprived of orgasm, as it is not linked to procreation. Only later, the female orgasm was admitted, but with great caution. And the woman who reached enjoyment without love was seen as a nymphomaniac. The inability to reach orgasm is called Anorgasmia and is the most frequent of female sexual dysfunctions. Statistics show that there are only 25% of orgasmic women and 75% of women who have some kind of difficulty in reaching orgasm. However, our experience proves that all women are capable of orgasms, unless they are suffering from a neurological and dysfunctional, endocrinological or gynecological disease, which has destroyed or compromised the physical basis of orgasm. Most of the causes are of a psychological nature or of inability and ignorance, yours or your partner's in dealing with your body.

Psychological factors that can inhibit orgasm:

• Taboos and prejudices that compromise an active participation in the sexual act;

• Ignorance of the partner's own body and body;

• Each partner must learn to know his own body and develop the ability to properly express the conditions and stimuli that favor him towards orgasm;

• Unconscious conflicts evoked by erotic sensations;

• Guilt feelings towards sexuality;

• Fear of delivery to the partner;

• Hostility to the partner;

Fear of surrendering to strong and unknown sensations (arousal only reaches a certain point, not allowing to reach the plateau phase, which is the maximum level of arousal necessary to trigger orgasm); Excessive concern about reaching orgasm, which generates anxiety, preventing relaxation, which is essential to trigger it. Some women tend to deny the importance of orgasm in an effort to adapt to dysfunction, taking advantage of only the non-orgasmic aspects of the relationship. When they are repeatedly frustrated for some time, they end up being disinterested in sex. In some cases, the woman's distress due to her inability to reach orgasms, anticipates failure when she starts making love, causing enough disturbance to give rise to a secondary frigidity or general lack of sexual response, which cannot be completely restored unless she learns to release her inhibited orgasmic reflex. Relationships have not favored a woman's orgasm Men have a lot of responsibility for a woman's orgasm. Studies show that 80% of the time the man penetrates the woman before she is duly ready and prepared for the sexual act. In the conventional sexual act, the man privileges the penetration and develops obsessive compulsive aspects, generating much anxiety to penetrate soon. Most men stick to the myth of masculinity, entering the sexual act as if they were fulfilling the mission of defending the macho attitudes that were wrongly passed on to them by the male models of their ancestors and reinforced by the social ignorance that permeates the subject - proving that it is "male". Added to this is the dread that men have of "failing" at "hour H", of the penis not being erect, of imagining "evaluated" in its performance, as if its behavior was judged by an examining board. Or to boast about actions, almost always mediocre, for completely ignoring the anatomical and physiological aspects of the vagina or the neurofunctional reflexes of the woman's body, being unable to perceive the woman's reactions to her stimuli. Men do not yet know how to share the exchange of erotic pleasures that gradually energize and energize energy, opening paths for neurotransmitter receptors to provide the conditions for the female orgasm to happen. Men are subjected to the primitive expression of sex, which determines that the expulsion of sperm happens as soon as possible. The frequency of the back and forth of the penis is fast, the penetration is deep, the rhythm is frequent, the attention is concentrated in the vagina, until quickly, in a short time, the man ejaculates, without the woman experiencing minimal pleasure, to the point of fluidizing and producing the emollience of your intravaginal muscles and the production of the hormones responsible for orgasm. In Tantra, fans learn that penetration is only recommended after proving the physiological responses that occur in the vagina. We teach fans how to achieve successive orgasms from different plateaus. After the fluidization and total emollience phase, they can finally penetrate the penis slowly and circularly, without the compulsive anxiety characteristic of normotic sex. Circular, slow and constant penetration allows contact with the entire vaginal wall in its depth, including internal points that have innervation with the clitoris, such as the Grafenberg Gland (point G). There are concomitant procedures, through which it is possible for women to experience orgasms also in conjunction with penetration. In relation to two, when the man dedicates himself, with special care, to taking his partner to experience the phases of the “high plateaus”, he contributes to the elevation of pleasure and the climax of orgasm, to higher levels, leading to woman experiencing the state of superconsciousness. There are statistics showing that women who have sex with a female partner have a great advantage over male partners - they enjoy it 83% of the time. It is then characterized that the big problem comes down to the way heterosexual sex is practiced and the fact that men are totally unaware of the female body and the needs for specific and appropriate stimuli that women need. Some findings from Shere Hite “The Hite Report”, a profound study of human sexuality, carried out by Shere Hite, informs that women who have never enjoyed often feel depressed or hurt because they know they are missing out on great pleasure. Hite and the greatest scholars of human sexuality claim that the best way for a woman to learn to come is through masturbation. Do women pretend to orgasm? There is a great number of women who pretend to orgasm as a way to please their partners. They lack the authenticity of pleasure and, consequently, men do not change their conformist behavior in relation to their disabilities and limitations, to provide sexual quality to their relationships. It is very rare to find a woman who has never feigned an orgasm.

Pain in Sex (Dyspareunia)

Called “dyspareunia”, the pain that occurs during sexual intercourse can represent a greater impediment to sexual satisfaction for women. In this situation, which can occur at any age, the pain may appear at the beginning of sexual intercourse, in the middle, during penetration or outside it, at the moment of orgasm or even after the relationship has ended. The pain can be burning, acute, burning or spasmodic; it can be external, in the vagina, or inside the pelvic area or abdomen. The incidence of dyspareunia is not known for certain, but it is estimated that 15% of adult women, sexually active, have already experienced pain during intercourse (penetration) a few times a year. Research shows that high numbers of adult women who have painful sexual intercourse are high. Dyspaurenia takes away a person's sexual pleasure and can interfere with sexual arousal and orgasm. Fear of pain can produce anxiety, tension and totally affect the reflexes that produce arousal. In many cases, the person ends up avoiding the sexual act or abstaining from all forms of sexual contact, with implications even in the withdrawal of relationships. The partners of women with dyspareunia must be very understanding and sensitive to their feelings, helping them in the search for treatments that welcome them and help them to overcome the problem. Recognizing the physiological signals that the body communicates, reducing tension and connecting, little by little, the sexual muscles with pleasure. Depending on the severity and intensity of the problem, the "trauma", filed by the neuromuscular reflex in the person's body, opens up and overlaps the traumatic experience with new information related to pleasure and orgasm. Some cases are solved with a single session, while others require 3 to 10 sessions, undergoing sensory re-education processes. In attendance, the body's defense system is not confronted, as this only reinforces the trauma. In a complex work of reintegration of acceptance and affection, he reorganizes the sensations, causing the body to open naturally, allowing himself to experience new levels of sensory deepening, without arming the defenses that produced the tension and pain that affect the sexual act. . In some cases, a psychological healing process (Traumas) is guided, meditating, cleaning, forgiveness…

Female Ejaculation:

* The liquid is transparent, odorless, thin and varies from 15ml to 200ml, depending on the woman. Not all women ejaculate, and those who do not always do so. It depends on factors related to stimulation, emotions and predisposition at the moment of the stimulus. It requires the correct stimulation of the G-spot and the clitoris. The G-spot is considered a male prostate counterpart.

* Female ejaculation was observed in the laboratory many centuries ago by Aristotle, who believed that the liquid was extremely important for fertilization. In the century. XX, science defended that female ejaculation would be a symptom of hysteria, summed up in the form of urinary incontinence, which later proved to be not true.

* By chemical analysis of the expelled liquid, it was shown that it had nothing to do with urine, but rather resembling the liquid expelled by the male prostate. Some women today still think they urinate when they ejaculate, since the sensation that precedes ejaculation is very similar to the urge to urinate. However, anatomy also proves that this is impossible, since the pubococcygeal muscle, which contracts at the time of orgasm, is also responsible for urinary containment.

* The ejaculated fluid is also unrelated to vaginal lubrication, since lubrication is done before orgasm and is produced by the Bartholin glands, while ejaculation occurs at the climax of the sexual act and its liquid is produced in Skene's glands and released through the glands of the urethral canal.

The G Spot:

The Grafemberg Gland, or Grafemberg point, better known as the G point (gets its name because it was discovered by the German gynecologist Grafenberg), is a small, highly sensitive and erogenous protrusion, the size of a 5 cent coin, located at the bottom of the wall front of the vagina of all women. It triggers a different type of orgasm than the clitoral, when women claim to feel waves of pleasure running through the entire body. With the stimulation of the G-spot, the sensations are much deeper and, sometimes, uncontrollably pleasurable.

For those who receive therapy, the fundamental details:

* Learn to relax and feel

* Realize the strength and influence of conditioning on your body, mind and emotions

* Develop new sensory aspects

* Potentialize new orgastic perspectives

* Avoid specific and intentional movements

* Let your breathing loose, spontaneous and natural

* When the energy goes up, it is natural to release a guttural sound - the primal or primordial sound. If there is ejaculation, don't worry. Go beyond conditioning

* Right after orgasm, it is natural that you feel a little pain. If it's an unbearable experience, ask to slow down the pace and intensity of the massage a little

* At the end of the session, remain silent for 10 minutes, integrating your experience in silence, observing internally what happens.

Women are no less orgasmic than men, on the contrary:

They are physically capable of multiple orgasms, dry orgasms and even ejaculations that occur in conjunction with orgasm. Men and women need to invest in experimentation and their sensory development, exploring the pleasure characteristics not only of the erogenous parts of their body, but also in other areas of the senses. These new sensory points can be awakened after a certain period of stimulation. We learned that a certain type of stimulation is needed, at the specific location and at the appropriate time. Partners need to know these erogenous points and dedicate themselves to producing the right stimuli, in the appropriate period of time, so that the results of arousal can expand until the outbreak of orgasm. In many places the idea still prevails that sexual pleasure was not invented for women, only for men. In many Muslim countries, for example, girls' clitoris are excised in an attempt to keep them out of contact with sexual pleasure. Men who have freed themselves from the myth of masculinity and managed to penetrate the female atmosphere, understood that it is important that their partners achieve greater quality of orgasm and pleasure, to enjoy a healthy and friendly relationship, without the conventional neuroses that are an obstacle to the perpetuation of good relations.

The benefits go far beyond sex life, as the person connects with his personal source of power. Therapy directs the creative potential of your sexuality to fulfill your professional, loving, personal and spiritual life.

This strength resides in you, take a step towards knowing it deeply!

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I'm Beto Alves (Deva Munish) and I work as a Tantric Therapist specialized in Breathing and Sexuality.

Allow yourself! you deserve to expand your sensations!