sex day

By sensitizing the body. In this safe and powerful space created by Tantra, a couple practices tantric massage with each other, usually guided by an experienced instructor therapist. Tantric massages enhance the energetic effects on the body and improve the quality of orgasm. In addition, there are practices that involve presence, looking, polarized breathing, touching the hands all over the body, sounds of pleasure, movement... all these resources increase intimacy, fun and pleasure for couples.

This is a part of the understanding, because Tantra also works on aspects such as communication, desire, libido, fantasies, behavior, relationship, etc. A couple can benefit a lot by practicing Tantra among themselves and with other people, as they enjoy one of the main pillars that is Freedom. I am convinced that the agreements (or lack thereof) and arrangements that a couple defines for their sexual practices can either strengthen or weaken the relationship, for example: monogamous (with each other), ménage (with a third person), swing ( with another couple), whether private or in large groups, in short, the
possibilities are many; in addition, the practices of voyeurism, BDSM, shibari and so many others... I talked above about fantasy, communication. It is quite common for a couple to create fantasies but not express these desires.
to the other, out of apprehension, fear, prejudice... In my experience, having assisted more than 3 thousand people with Tantra, the couple must exercise authentic, true communication about what they would like to accomplish with their partner, whether in a field of fantasy or even performing with one or more people. It can be surprising!

Is it possible to have intense connections with more than one person at the same time?

Of course, these connections can be sexual or affective. Or both. If we are talking about single people here, this Freedom of experimentation with one or more people, in the same environment or one at a time, such freedom can and should be encouraged. A key to success in this intensification of pleasure and being together is, without a doubt, Presence. If you are with a person there, there is only that person (as much as there are other "contacts" available). Or if the move is a 3 or liberal group, be complete in the ride. This is being tantric. Presence and Respect for each other.

Why is affective bonding often seen as superior to sexual interaction?

I believe it's because the commitment to one another, the promise to "only be yours" is valued more. There's an objectification component, I think. One is possessor and the other is possession. The feeling of success and failure in a relationship associated with fulfilling an agreement not to have sex with anyone else. Not even fantasy is allowed, for it is betrayal in thought. If we understand affective as something related to the heart, to romantic love, then we submit sex to a mundane condition, linked to the primitive, animal, which can lose its charm (through the body, through sensation) with each new partner. So, affection can seem more subtle to us, even more sacred, because it connects look, voice, smiles, hand touches, kiss... not to mention the desire to be together, make plans together, want only each other, forever ?)
I leave a provocation: train your individuality, the feeling of fullness, being good with yourself, because exchanging affections, sex with one or more people will be a part of your experience, of your existence and will make your decisions about what to do with your body, with your time and energy much easier and lighter.

What are the personal impacts of sexual self-knowledge?

I believe it's taking ownership of yourself, knowing what you want and what doesn't make sense anymore. For couples who develop together, whether in Tantra, in liberal communities or other environments of experimentation, discovering what makes the heart and genitals vibrate is a fundamental condition for a happy life. Think: if the individual does not know what is good for his own body, how can he expect someone else to know? It is cruel especially for women who, in addition to not being taught about sex and pleasure, as men are not, are still repressed in their existence, in their behavior, whether in the clothes they wear, in the "manners", in the speech etc. .