Delayed Ejaculation

It is less common than premature ejaculation, but it causes as much damage. It often has its origins in the belief that men need to maintain a performance during intercourse like that of pornographic films. They believe that they will be more admired if they manage to keep their penises erect for as long as possible, as if they were real sex machines. As if that gave them the endorsement of being “real men”, as if that were a guarantee of pleasure for their partner, and she, a great privilege to have such a virile man in her bed.

They internalized due to the social pressures of our cultural construction, which need to keep performing in fetched positions and poses, demonstrating their “physical and mental resistance”, when sometimes they force themselves to think about random things totally outside the relationship so that they manage not to ejaculate and fulfill the male role they believe they need to be accepted as such. They end up completely disconnecting from their partner and from the moment they are experiencing because of beliefs and cultural weights that they have accepted as absolute truths, harming their own sexual health, compromising and neglecting their own pleasure and that of their partner.

Deconstructing these mistaken beliefs, learning to remain in a state of presence, getting out of the conditioning of having to assume these imposed social roles, letting go of the stallion mask and allowing yourself to truly feel, are fundamental to having a healthy sex life and nourish that vital and creative energy.

The belief that it is necessary to maintain an erection for hours and perform all the time in sexual intercourse does not contribute to the pleasure of any of those involved in the act, and generates this dysfunction not so simple to solve. It is necessary to work on surrender and permission to ejaculate, it ends up being blocked by these beliefs or by a traumatic experience. Psychotherapy in conjunction with tantric therapy can have very significant positive results.

The genital maneuvers used in the tantric massage of the Deva Nishok method were developed in a way that the body does not recognize as sex. Precisely so that other places, other memories, other neural synapses are reached with the work. They are not maneuvers of conventional masturbatory movements, because the body already has these records and would lead to sexual memories. They are specific maneuvers, to access other places that are not known with masturbation.

That's why massage is so effective in matters of sexual dysfunction, because they are maneuvers in the genital region that will refer to another place, of permission, of unblocking, of letting the sexual energy flow.

The way massage is performed can allow new neural synapses on top of memories of abuse, abandonment, rejection, demands, heavy and established castrating beliefs. Because the maneuvers are different, they will not refer to the same familiar places.

As much as the person does not understand, it is possible that when receiving the massage, the body itself makes the new neural synapses and can re-signify the vision in relation to ejaculation, to enjoy, in relation to permission, in relation to feeling pleasure. The work is continuous and progressive. And it works in the deconstruction of conditioning, programming and helps to transform beliefs and dissolve traumas, reorganizing the power of body self-regulation.