listening to emotions

Since childhood we are not taught to deal with our emotions, we have adults as an example. From the child's perspective, the adult is the one who provides, who welcomes, who teaches. The child is mirrored in the adult's actions because it is what he has as a reference of how to live here on Earth, the child can repeat a series of behaviors that he simply learns from the adult, however, the adult does not have the sensitivity to realize that these behaviors come from a series of repetition that has been registered in that child's system.

Along the child's journey, the child holds these emotions through our actions in the face of the responses that the child has, instead of welcoming and giving space for the child to express their pain, most of the time this child ends up being repressed by the classic phrases that the adult says: “Why are you crying? Stop crying”, “You didn't even get hit, you shouldn't be crying”, “shut up”, “if you keep crying, I'll leave you here”. Unfortunately, it is not only the phrases that are registered in this child's system, but the feeling that a certain emotion aroused is also registered and reappears throughout life through attitudes, behaviors, fears, phobias and neuroses.

Usually, uncomfortable situations lead us to a deep pain hidden in us, and we simply react to it in an unthinking way, just following the model ACTION = REACTION. Reflect on whether at any given time you went through a situation that responded or acted unthinkingly, acted out of the heat of the moment, and was gripped by some emotion.

For example, anger is an emotion practically impossible to miss when we are taken by it, our body shakes completely, we respond in an angry and thoughtless way to another person. These are records that are in our body since childhood. How many times have you had to contain your anger or crying? How many times have you had to accept situations that were no longer yours just to be seen, accepted and recognized? How many times have you had to go beyond your limit to please the other? How many times have you swallowed the crying?

How many times have you had to hold your breath to not feel and gained that breathing mechanism long enough to survive? The body has its wisdom and the defense mechanism is an intelligent way for us to defend ourselves from any imminent threat. Everything that we're not ready to handle right then and there. There's nothing wrong with that, you don't need to feel guilty if you identified with a question or something mentioned in the text. Look at the situation with compassion.

One step at a time so that you can recognize this situation, that you can embrace by listening to the emotions what goes on inside you, there is no right or wrong, there is no guilt or guilt, there is only the learning that here and now can offer.

Psychotherapy offers a great opportunity for us to dive into the emotions that are blocking certain areas of life, we dive into the emotions and welcome, respect your moment, make room for the new to come. If you feel you need professional help and support for this journey. You can count on me.