I want to be horny

There were countless times I attended people, both men and women, with a drop in sexual desire or difficulty in having pleasure, hoping to have a miraculous horny.

Let me explain: The person is living a highly stressful life situation, an exhausting work routine or an unhappy marriage or problems in their business or other complicated situations and yet they expect to feel like having sex at the end of the day.

We didn't have any sex education. The little we had was about the biological part of risk of pregnancy or contagion of disease. The rest “we learn” from friends and through pornography, where people seem like robots always ready to get laid.

We have the illusion that libido, sexual desire, are separate from the rest. We think that emotion, fatigue, frustration, should not interfere in anything with the desire to have sex. Some people even play at giving nicknames to their genitals, as if they had a mind of their own and were separated from the person they belong to.

We expect a miracle. Even if other areas of life are not doing well, we want sexual desire to exist. We think we have a problem because the desire for sex has decreased a lot.

Unfortunately that's not how it works. It's all interconnected. Your sex life is reflected in the whole and vice versa. And knowing this can greatly reduce your feeling of inadequacy, of being problematic (o), of having some defect. Knowing this allows you to seek balance in all areas of life.

Of course, life will never be one hundred percent perfect. Stress and difficulties are part of our routine. But when difficult or sad situations go on for a long time, the libido goes down.

The same happens in unhappy relationships, with a sedentary life, the body left out and several other situations. The libido goes off.

Remembering that if you are a Human Being and not a machine, it allows you to stop and look at what can be improved. How can you take care of yourself more? What can be sapping your lust?