Phallus, the center of the Universe

I have been serving men as a tantric therapist since 2014. And since I started, a lot of what I thought about them has changed and today I can see them in a loving and compassionate way.

My first relationship with the male was of admiration for my father and for other rude and fearless men who played cattle, knocked off bulls and tame horses; After envy: I wanted the freedom that boys enjoy and I often tried to pass under the rainbow to become a boy.

As a teenager, anger came, caused by the envy of the privileges my brothers had: they slept late, ate the best food, did nothing at home, watched TV at any time, left without saying where they were going and arrived late without giving satisfaction. I'm angry!

As an adult, I was overcome by fascination, lust and fear. Yes, fear because I didn't trust men, "Man is an animal" - said Mum. With maturity, negative feelings subsided and others began to emerge slowly.

Therapist, I started to realize the weaknesses and difficulties of being a man.
At the same time that the male sex is allowed, much is denied: he cannot be sweet, he cannot give up, he cannot cry, he cannot waver and finally he can never show his feminine emotions and characteristics. In fact, his feminine part must be totally repressed to be considered a "real man".

Many arrive with the hypotonic lingam (penis) discolored, devitalized, cold, without pulse and disconnected as if it were not part of the rest of the body. I often tell you how delicate this organ is and how, in Tantra, it is respectfully honored for its significance as a channel of creative energy and pleasure, defined as a "support column", "light stick".

But what I perceive, in listening to the body and in the conversation in which they report childhood issues such as beatings, humiliation, bullying, joking with siblings, harassment and harassment, and various relationship and "being a man" difficulties is that there are many weaknesses , uncertainties and insecurities. There, lying on the mat, naked as they came into the world, many reveal themselves to be boys who need to put out the trapped scream, anger, hurt and fears.

How many sessions was the submission in my lap ?! Quite different this "submission" right?

Finally, I mean, man, you are not your penis, there is sex without penetration and pleasure, even orgasm, without erection. You are not a sex machine, you want to give and receive affection, love and attention. Follow your heart, show yourself vulnerable and don't worry about proving your manhood to anyone.

Seeking Tantric Therapy can be the first step to reframe and expand the ways of giving and receiving pleasure. You can get rid of so much suffering and anguish that it will only grow if you continue to run away from yourself.