END OF THE LINE ... ”and finishing, how does it happen?”

Several times I was surprised by questions that the Tantric Therapy brings, mainly and almost exclusively through the masculine, on how the process of approaching touches with regard to “finishing” occurs, even after detailing how the approach takes place at different levels of the process.

So I decided to reflect on some points that also put the work with the feminine field in check, I understand that both need visibility, both on an individual level through memories on physical, emotional and mental levels, as well as in wider areas such as collective / cultural .

One of the great current movements (not so much) of the feminine that aims to break the patterns of a patriarchal and phallocentric society, which has historically occupied space for hundreds of years, begins to conceive a break of several behaviors already established in our families, patterns of our bodies, in our (sub) conscious, of the roles that the feminine plays, and, this consequently demands a displacement of the role of the masculine itself within that same social cell, establishing a break of this reference that this masculine occupies (va).

This model of masculinity had been performing a standard performance where his instincts and desires were always served and pre-established as a reference to the opposite gender, something to be attended to, fed, almost like a “son” or “animal” that needs to be maintained satiated and satisfied. A demand for beliefs and standards that not so long ago, I myself learned from my ancestors, between the lines of everyday life, how it should be done.

And these needs are no longer being covered up and fed as we bring to light our pains and wounds from centuries of imprisonment and abuse, including the male himself, who loses a lot in the identity game attributed to gender through its own historical / cultural reference. imposed by different social institutions, going beyond the limits of what is sexually possible and even allowed to express or feel.

The search for pleasure and for the expansion of the senses is natural when looking for the process that tantric therapy can provide, however, this same process goes beyond the patterns that we initially know, conceive and name as pleasure. This pleasure that we can feel in the sessions, directs us from the physical body to the soul body (emotions and thoughts) expanding our perception in a flow of energy, expression and experimentation of this experience, in an integral way, regardless of the memories you keep.

This opening brings with it a series of derepressing characteristics, as the tantra being of matriarchal origin, with sensory and behavioral characteristics, it aims to welcome everything that is, the integrity of the being itself, and assuming this integrity, we bring all manifestations of the universe with us, including aspects of the feminine (yin) and the male (yang).

In my eyes, there is still a certain noise in the masculine in assuming the feminine itself. A dance that can take some time to bring a balance in your steps, just like with women to balance their masculine energy and their manifestations.

When you embrace this supposed duality of energies and integrate everything you have in an experience as tantric therapy can provide, something magical happens that goes beyond the memory pattern that the body holds, on a more objective level, when refers to the subject of: “feeling pleasure”. There is also the fear of the non-correspondence of a supposed male virility in terms of the expression of this body, such as erection, or even, in reaching this experience of perception of pleasure through the "completion" with ejaculation within the therapeutic process.

However, if we put aside all these constructions through the expression of the (not) feeling of the masculine and the mechanized body in a certain type of “pleasure”, sensations and senses, we will go beyond what the “train line” presents us as arriving, or ultimate goal. The alignment of the physical, emotional and mental bodies leads us to an expression of energy beyond the usual. The spirit integrates with the purpose of the session, the use of sexual energy and opens up beyond all perceptions of patterns, especially the body, after all, tantra is a process with direct intervention across the field / physical body. And it doesn't end when it is supposed to end.

Ejaculation goes beyond a purely physiological and objective process, and becomes an infinite expression of well-being, full enjoyment and orgasm that is far from a small part expressed by the physical body. It is in you whole and passes through the whole body, with reference to each part, each cell, each curve of it, and beyond.

If it is just a matter of areas known as erogenous and genital, it is not enough, if it is limited to the field of physical expression, it is not enough, trying to translate it in writing or through any explanation or reference is little, as little as any concept of completion.

Yes, there is a finalization of the process and it is called integration, as important as any other part of the whole in the procedure, but it is definitely far from the standards to which we are exposed by pornography, or by a culture that can often castrate us in the search through a deepening of a deeper expression of sexuality, or in the search for the expansion of your sexual energy, which is far from an only physiological response. After all, sexual energy is vital energy, and it should be noted here that it covers as many areas of our lives as we can conceive.

Sustaining this imaginary scenario composed of elements that bring the satisfaction of a male through a demand for supply and suppression of desire and pleasure in a superficial way is like drying ice. Men, allow yourself to know yourself beyond the keyhole, allow yourself to express yourself beyond the fear of vulnerability and allow yourself to feel beyond any limit imposed by a male that corresponds to anything other than your maximum expansion of being . After all, the end always brings with it the power of a new beginning, and their bodies are not just imposed and mechanical standards. Let's go further?

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