I was betrayed, what now?

I made this text to talk about betrayals of love, where relationships often end, and there are those who endure everything and manage to turn the page of a betrayal.

The truth is that nobody wants to be betrayed! It hurts, it hurts, it breaks trust. Halfway through we discovered a betrayal, what to do?

The first step is to withdraw, you will need some time to assimilate, you will face a kind of mourning, helplessness, anger, a desire for revenge.

Searching for culprits may involve seeking punishment. I think it is not interesting to look for the guilty. If the focus is on punishment, wouldn't that be prioritizing what the other did? Doesn't the focus on emotionally restructuring seem more interesting?

Usually, the betrayed person puts himself in the victim's place, where he says he doesn't deserve it, and consequently he becomes the “poor thing”, and that phrase keeps hammering in his head: “why did you do this to me?”.

I came to understand that whoever cheats does not do to reach the other. Obviously it was a choice, but in the vast majority of cases, whoever betrays does everything to preserve the betrayed, precisely because he does not want to see him suffer, it is perhaps in this practice that the saying "what the eye does not see the heart does not feel".

In my opinion nobody is liable to this error, if a betrayal is part of the relationship it is possible to assess the meanings of everything, and however difficult it is, understanding the reasons of the other can make this situation lighter, bringing maturity in the shots of decisions.

You may have already been there, and a movie came to mind, you may not agree with anything you read, it may be that you cheat and think you will never be betrayed, it may be that you have agreed with everything and may not have experienced any situation.

It can be so many things, right?

Betrayal does not deserve support. Putting yourself in the victim's place doesn't solve it, I don't recommend holding anyone responsible.

Understanding that the other's mistake is no worse than ours creates empathy for humanity. We create wisdom and we will choose the weight of our loads.

Namaste!