Free your inner child to have a happy relationship and demonstrate how much you love and respect your love.

Many people live non-pleasurable relationships on a daily basis (psychological, physical, moral abuse, among others) and for a number of reasons prolongs the life of an unhealthy relationship that only causes pain and disorder in the lives of both. Furthermore, when you can break this relationship, try to forget everything as quickly as possible. Usually when these people get back together they look like Déjà vu. Different people repeating the same mistakes, again.

Our big mistake is trying to forget something that is part of us. It is trying to hide “under the rug and hold the house clean”. It is Believing that moving house will no longer have dust and because of that the house will be clean.

Sweet mistake, you need to find out why this happens. It is vital for us to grow as a person and thus have a happy relationship. It is a fine line between success and failure.

The first step on this journey is getting to know the person who can turn everything into a good thing, yourself. It is important that you observe in that first moment what causes you anger, fear, anguish, sadness, happiness.

My life experience shows how much I have entered and left abusive relationships. Likewise, how abusive and destructive I was in the relationships I had.

Breaking this cycle is very painful and laborious, however I guarantee that at the end of the journey everything is worthwhile.

So, trying to figure out how to get out of this turmoil that my life was in (I always saw myself in the eye of the hurricane) I developed a relationship formula that worked.

Becoming aware of these feelings is the first step towards not acting automatically, letting the primitive impulses take over the rational being completely. The impulses come from when we were children and the behavior without the rational is the Inner Child of the person controlling the Being, even though he / she is already an adult.

Here I highlight that I learned to differentiate what was truly my feeling from the feelings that were of other people and through internality or familiarity I internalized.

The lack of true knowledge leads us to judge what we understand. In addition, acting erroneously because of a false conviction that was passed from one person to another and even though time has passed we believe that that is an absolute truth.

The second step was to look carefully and see what my Inner Child wanted to tell me. Which cheeses. What wills are repressed. What behaviors were inherited from my family members. Finally, nurturing this inner child of love, care and attention is essential for progress in this journey towards self-love (not to be confused with selfishness).

That's right, only with Self Love will we be ready to have a fruitful relationship. Only by being a good company for yourself can you be a good company for someone else.

I always do an exercise here. Answer honestly. Think first that you are someone else. Then go to a mirror, preferably large, that can look at the whole body. From that point of view analyze and respond quickly.

Would you date the person in the mirror?

Would you marry the person in the mirror?

If the answer is no.

What does the person in the mirror need to do to win you over?

These issues have to be dealt with not out of narcissism, but we can only give the other what we are full of.

When we look at our inner child, the way in which we relate goes through a profound personal transformation. Only when we are vibrating at a high and good frequency will we be able to find a pair at the same frequency.

The way I found to start this process was rebirth therapy which is a circular and continuous breathing technique that allows you to work and release childhood trauma, it can be a way for you to allow yourself.