Unloved

Term often used to classify a woman who is grumpy, unhappy with life, sad, stressed, upset, distributing complaints and negativity... It is also widely used to classify the woman who imposes herself, who fights for her rights, who does not say amen to everything that is imposed on him, who is free, who does not lower his head and does not bow before those who think he is in authority... Also used to refer to the single woman who, in the face of any refusal from her, can receive the title of unloved.

Most of the time, this title is accompanied by evil giggles, gossip, whispers. All done behind the back.

I've done this. There was a time when I used the term “unloved” in some of these senses. And how unloved I was at the time. I rejected myself all the time, hated many parts of my body, felt inadequate, acted as I believed others expected, always looking for acceptance and validation from others. I had no idea who I was, unable to recognize my value, I didn't know my powers and qualities, I didn't know or know how to deal with my shadows, which when they manifested, I was unable to perceive what was behind them and I was just taken over by their furies, and afterwards I felt immensely guilty and once again belittled myself for it.

Today I know that being well or unloved only depends on ourselves. It's getting to know ourselves, appropriating who we truly are, deeply accepting ourselves, valuing the things we admire, welcoming ourselves, resignifying and transmuting negative beliefs and feelings, accessing our essence, are the ways in which we grow self-love.

It is only unloved or unloved who does not love himself. And it's very cliché, but it's also very true, that no one values ​​those who don't value themselves, that we show others how we accept being treated.

How can I want to receive respect, love, affection, delicacy, kindness, if I don't treat myself like that? It is very important that we treat ourselves the way we would like to be treated.

If when we look in the mirror, we judge ourselves negatively all the time, if we don't prepare delicious and pleasant things for ourselves, if we don't look at ourselves with affection, if we don't take care and generosity with ourselves, if we don't we present ourselves with pleasant moments and connections, it's an excellent opportunity to look inside and start changing these behaviors.

There are a lot of people who only prepare exquisite food, tidy the house with more care or tidy up with more care and attention, when they are going to be with another person(s).

Life is precious, and it's the moment we are in now, and we deserve to be loved. It is with us that love begins. Let us be extremely well loved by ourselves first. Love is not external to us.

In no way am I saying that we are self-sufficient or independent of others. No. We are social beings and relationships are very important, enriching and can be very pleasant for us. What I say is that it is also very important to have admiration for yourself, love and pleasure in being with yourself. And that it improves the quality of all other relationships.

May we love each other so much, that there is no other possibility but to overflow this love wherever we go.

If you need help, Tantra has many tools that can help in your process, it is a more than beautiful, incredible and powerful way to accept and value yourself as the unique being that you are, leading us to meet our self love. Enjoy! It is available to all who are willing.