Erotic Massage

A erotic massage has been increasingly sought after - as Google's own numbers reveal to us. And this demand makes room for a multitude of interpretations that will put the practice on a spectrum in which the therapeutic experience is at one end and the erotic experience at the other. We need to know that the two lines exist and learn to differentiate one from the other so that we don't end up falling into unpleasant experiences.

It is not for us to make any value judgments here, just make it clear: in the Metamorfose Network we find professionals who offer Tantric massage Therapy.

Erotic Massage X Therapeutic Massage

Erotic massage cannot be therapeutic and therapeutic massage cannot be erotic.

Each of these approaches will directly work on the distance that the person in the role of the therapist has from his interacting person, at all levels - physical, sexual, emotional, energetic, spiritual, etc ... This distance - combined with all the other factors that surround the session - will bring specific qualities to the job and to the experience.

It is for this phenomenon, for example, that the same neotantric techniques that are used in a therapeutic context, when they are taught to a couple who uses them in their intimacy, can work wonders for libido and lust, as they activate a more erotic character , because the distance that exists in the relationship allows and accepts this with space.

But eroticized work - outside that intimate context, offered à la carte - can be extremely pleasurable, but it hardly expands or transforms the person's sexual behavior. Erotic roots our mental patterns more, repeats games that we already know, plays with something that is already internalized in our system, with our sexuality too mental, and does not nourish the health of the sexual system by expanding its orgasmic potency, its sensitivity and its energy fluidity.

The limits of eroticism

When we play with erotic games we are repeating habits that, because they have become addictions, end up harming the healthy response of our sexuality.

The big question that plagues humanity's sexuality today is mental interference in the excitatory process, of connection, of opening, in short, the whole sexual response today is directly dependent on mental effort. And we are not understanding what happens to our minds in this process - what confuses them, what afflicts them, what happens to them that prevents us from feeling the moment as it happens.

In this mental confusion that surrounds our sexuality, eroticism is a useful pill. It allows connections, aggregates people, facilitates some exchanges, but works directly with the rigidity of the system, without any progress on issues such as orgasmic power, sensitivity or fluidity. He keeps the sexual games known. But like any pill it can be addictive, it creates conditioning and, many times, we need a weaning.

But in many stories, eroticism brings relief. And in Tantra we need to look at humanity without judgment. We are not here wanting to condemn erotic activity in any way. We just need to understand the limits of each experience to understand what is up to us in each moment.

Moralism in Tantra

Due to the interpretation that the mainstream media had of Osho's neo-tantric vision, Tantra ended up being seen as a path that propagated debauchery and hedonism, as if pleasure were the definitive answer to spiritual paths.

Tantra does not speak of Moral. O Tantra talks about awakening and liberation. In the process of awakening, we create experiences that sharpen our critical sense and open our eyes to structural issues. Many concepts come to us when we are very young: what a family is, the role of a father, a mother, what it means to be successful ... all these concepts are inserted in our neural chains long before we know what we want be when you grow up or because you don't like broccoli. They are dormant questions that have never been questioned or looked at with a greater level of detachment from our character and our identity of that value or concept. This is the process of awakening. When we look at Moral in this interpretation, we realize that it is man-made, it changes from time to time, from society to society, even though we can find some common principles. Tantra never condemned the erotic.

Even in the liberation process - in which we deal with the bonds, the tensions, the rigidity, the lack of mobility, the locking, the contraction, the energy imbalance that causes the neuromuscular armor - playing with the eroticism in a therapeutic way can help a lot to reestablish respiratory and motor fluidity at the time of sexuality. But, again, for that we need a therapeutic space and create an experience that puts the interacting person in this quality of movement. This is completely different from having an erotic experience with the interactant.

The transformation of sexuality

When we think about healing or transforming sexuality, we need to look at this process as a bodily re-education. A gym, but instead of losing fat and generating hypertrophy we will try to excite and calm the vegetative nervous system. As we play with these experiences, the nervous system has more and more information and develops its resilience.

And the field of sexuality is extremely connected with the scars of the nervous system, the traumas, the chronic stresses, the somatizations, the emotional aspect, the fixed thoughts and ideas… The cycle of healthy sexual response involves an orchestration of the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems for that excitement and orgasm can happen in the healthiest way and, even better, can expand to more intense loads.

This bodily learning does not happen in the field of the erotic, fetishes, fantasies; it happens in the sensory, non-cognitive, non-verbal field, with less narratives and more sensations. It is the sensations that the body produces that leave us in the here and now, connected with our experience. It is the sensory information that will fill and occupy the space within the mind that, at that moment, is occupied by thoughts projected outward or fixed ideas. The more sensitive we are, the more we will feel. And the more we feel, the less we will think about the moment of sexuality. Little by little the body learns this new pattern and is reconfiguring itself, opening space for new emotions and new behaviors, transforming our sexuality.