MATCH - MY PERFECT LOVER

We have a problem here. When we leave a tantra practice that involves physical interventions and bodily and/or genital touches, a great dilemma arises in the face of this initiation.

Everything is done so that the expansion of bodily, emotional and mental awareness is attracted to the field of perception of the interactor (patient) and that he can appropriate these practical insights for a more assertive life directed to himself and the needs of the environment in which he lives. which also acts.

People often leave with a very repetitive question in their minds, which is:

“How am I going to find someone to do this to me out there?”

And I tell you beforehand: "Will not"

In the same way that you just gained this insight through the hands of the therapist, now you need to acquire autonomy in your daily practices to become that much desired lover that your basic exchange and relational needs have been seeking.

The other out there, just like you before you were here, also doesn't know about these practices, and doesn't know how to love himself in practical terms. We learned how to enter the box of pornography and dogmas, to have reduced responses of our potential for experimentation of sexual energy in the face of sexuality to the point of not even knowing who we are in this vast, unexplored, targeted and desired territory of the human being.

We depend on the other even to incite our desires towards our lust, forgetting that all this is a tool of its own and not delegated to another. And here I do not dispense with the other within the practice of exchange, but within the “indispensable” panorama. The other can be propellant, never fuel.

The fuel is in you and in this contract of finding and being the ideal lover for yourself, I ask you how often and in what way do you want to be touched by the other?

How intimate do you want to be with the other and what sensations do you want the other to cause you? Whether physical, emotional and/or mental? How is the dance between you guys done and how often? What sensations do you want to have with the other?

Now let's take the other out of the role you delegate to the other, and leave you responsible for this whole range of pleasure and interaction, without psychogenic tricks and masturbatory shortcuts with pejorative conditioning of relaxation and predatory escape valve based on a single objective that is the answer the apex and not the interaction.

We want the dedication and interaction of the loving role with time and exploration of the senses that we do not give ourselves when we play our role as lovers of ourselves in the search for what is ours and we always seek outside.

Tantra is the shortest path to the longest path that is always in, never out. Everything that you seek to be or have, you already are and have, just time and practices are enough for this “ideal” to be as close to your current reality as possible.

Giving loving and affectionate attention to yourself has immense nourishing potential. The need to delegate, fantasize, blame and charge the other in an increasingly less predatory way is reduced.

Who is your inner lover? Does it match who you are looking for? Who do you deserve? Or who are you to yourself? This lover and this love that we crave for us meets the quality of our own and self-directed moments of pleasure, priority, fulfillment, presence, harmony, lovingness and acceptance of all our potentials for the benefit of ourselves and our own. coexistence.

What you want from the other, are you able to direct yourself?

When the maxim of "love your neighbor as yourself", you will know that you are ready to receive the love that emanates from you in return, otherwise, as long as your eyes deviate from the mirror image, when your criticism is greater than your forgiveness, when your flight is greater than your confrontation, or when your delegation exceeds your reception, genuinely your love encounter can be doomed to the failure of transference.

The external is only a reflection of what you have inside, it is the overflow of your own reality and that is what Tantra shows you. Where you overflow so that you gain autonomy to find your own ideal lover inside to experience him outside.