NO

For a long time in my life, I believed that I should say yes on many occasions when in my heart I wanted to say no. I believed that this was a matter of cordiality and education. I thought it was the right thing to do.

A favor here, an exit there, borrowing, giving in to other people's wishes ...

I was very afraid of hurting other people by saying the "no" I would like to say. Completely forgetting that by not saying it, I was hurting myself. I've done so many things that I didn't want to, so I accepted much less than I wanted, I got hurt on so many occasions for being permissive and not being honest with my feelings.

It is past time to break away from this cultural view of disrespecting ourselves to meet the needs of others. Of course, you don't have to be rude, disrespectful or arrogant, but just be true to yourself and other people.

Don't force yourself, wear yourself out and lose your energy doing things that don't make any sense to you. We get so used to doing this throughout life, that there comes a time when we even have difficulty in discerning when to say or not to say "no". There you need to turn inward, seek self-knowledge, understand yourself, so that you find yourself in your own needs and wants, in your own will.

It is so liberating to be able to say the 'noes' you want and go on in life according to your wishes. Everyone wins when we stop doing what pleases others unwillingly, to do what really pleases us. It is too beneficial a sincerity.

It is worth discovering yourself, taking the unnecessary weights off your shoulders and following life with at least the lightness and peace of mind for having respected yourself at that point.

Ask yourself. Be it invitations, favors where you don't see relevance, unnecessary loans, places and companies that don't make you feel good, studies that you hate and say nothing about, obligations and roles that you don't have to fulfill, masks that don't fit you. .

I want this? Does it make sense to me? Does it make my heart flutter? Does it bring me joy, peace, harmony, fun, smiles, laughter? Makes me feel good?

Be honest with yourself. And if the answer is "no", exercise it. As difficult as it may seem, it is very possible. Start. Gradually it becomes natural. And soon you will realize that you are freeing yourself not only from doing what you do not want, but also from the emotions and somatizations that come with the “no” package that was not said, but swallowed dry.

Let go of your vishuddha and give yourself this gift of lightness in your soul.

Namaste!