Nudity

How is nudity for you? Your own and other people's? Do you think it's beautiful? vulgar? Does it bother you or fascinate you in any way?

There are those who feel very good, free, at peace with themselves. And there are those who are not able to be naked without criticizing themselves all the time, without feeling ashamed of what they are, being uncomfortable with nudity, whether because of socially imposed standards of beauty or a religious view of guilt, of the body. as a source of sin, as if something were very wrong.

Some people feel a huge weight in the simple fact of being naked, even alone, they feel uncomfortable, inadequate. And even more so if they are in the presence of another person(s). Changing clothes in front of someone can be a big challenge for many people.

For me it used to be like that. I don't remember much how it happened, but I remember well when I was about 6 years old, I was terrified of having dreamed that my parents had seen me naked. How can such a little girl still see nudity as something so uncomfortable, wrong and forbidden?

Getting naked in front of your partner can be even more difficult for some people. A moment that should be pleasant, an exchange full of pleasant moments, can become torture if we carry fears, shame, insecurities, guilt and fears related to nudity.

Deconstructing them is a fundamental factor for a healthy life, for allowing self-love, full pleasure, acceptance of what one is, and countless possibilities to live with joy, truly enjoying life.

It was also very difficult for me to be naked without criticizing myself, to be naked in front of other people so, much more, how many times have I had sex with a lot of shame about my body and my reactions...

I looked at my yoni in the mirror only after I was 36 years old, after knowing Tantra. I neglected my pleasure for lack of self-love and for many other reasons for so long. Sleeping naked was already so difficult for me, masturbating then generated a huge amount of guilt...

It's so amazing to look back and realize how much Tantra helped me get through each of these things. Looking at me with love, recognizing my body of pleasure, liking me, all this is very liberating.

The body is so beautiful, it is a fantastic living organism, which allows us to have the most diverse sensations, experiences and experiences. It should be seen by all of us as such. From an early age, we should be encouraged to value it, to perceive it as unique and incomparable rather than wanting to mold ourselves in the same ways.

And if we talk about another form of nudity, the one that hides behind social masks, the ego, the things we show ourselves to be to others so that we are socially seen as “good citizens”, inside the boxes that are expected of us, as the socially acceptable model, it can be even more difficult to have the courage to undress. Perhaps in this sense, the initial questions of the text were even more complicated to answer.

It is worth the reflection, to look at each other with affection, with love and with truth. We seek these answers honestly, and realize how we have treated ourselves, how we have felt and treated our bodies and our souls. If we allow ourselves to undress at some level in the face of so many oppressions and if it is worth surviving in these small models that have taught us in many places (family, school, religion, society), as the correct path to follow. This path, which is the same for everyone, which does not take into account our wealth of diversity of potentials, abilities, talents, wills, desires, purposes, hearts, souls...

Are we living in a way that we are carried away by the current, without even realizing our own life is passing by, or are we actually living according to what we choose, attentive and available to the gifts that life brings us, allowing us to be naked in the body? and soul in a life full of nourishment, love, pleasure and truth?

I wish you can feel safe in being naked whenever you want, in body or feelings, with people who can receive and share nudity, in a beautiful, sincere and human way.

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