What happens when your sexual energy increases too fast?
posted by Deva Karuno
I have been observing many people with doubts about Sexual Energy. Some questions from men about women's sexual energy and about the relationship between premature ejaculation and sexual energy.
But what happens when a woman's sexual energy increases too fast? If sexual energy leads to orgasm, why can that energy disable an orgasm? I ejaculate in less than a minute during intercourse. Could sexual energy be the cause of my problem?
Come on …
A simple way to explain Sexual Energy is as a sensation you have in your body that you cannot see. You feel your sexual energy as arousal or arousal. You can gauge your lover's arousal by your senses. This happens sexually when your partner picks up on your sexual energy and gets aroused because of it.
I talk a lot about polarity, or the magnetic masculine/feminine attraction. This is also energy.
And here's the thing about our nervous systems. We have a sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system and they need to be stimulated equally. One needs to feel calm and secure while the other needs excitement. Security without excitement is a boring sex life.
So what happens when a woman's sexual energy increases too fast? She walks away. She has to "ground" herself if you push her too fast. The slow arousal and the gradual stimulation with grounding movements really take your lover to higher heights of sexual ecstasy.
Safety-based arousal is the perfect combination, as too much stimulation blows our minds. This is why a woman's clitoris can be easily overstimulated without the grounding effect of massage and penetration into the yoni (vagina).
The Expanded Orgasm practice teaches you how to feel each other's energy and connect in unity. Part of the Expanded Orgasm practice includes learning how to give a woman a “conscious touch” on her clitoris. When you can bring a woman's energy up or down with your subtle energy systems, you can expand the duration of her climax and chain multiple, long climaxes together.
EXPANDED ORGASM IS DIFFERENT
All beings can remain in expanded states of orgasm. It's about learning to enter an orgasmic state and then staying there with little rests to go higher and higher.
If sexual energy leads to orgasm, why can that energy disable an orgasm?
If you let your energy drop, you can walk away from orgasm. Or if you let your sexual energy go too fast and, as a man, you ejaculate, then sex will come to an end.
Tantric therapy teaches a man to speed up and slow down his arousal levels with a body-based technique that you can use during sex. Whether you come too fast or too slowly, breathing teaches your body to speed up or slow down so you can come whenever you want.
Now, with a woman, if you take her up too fast and she gets overstimulated, sex can also end. For example, if her clitoris is super sensitive, she won't want to be touched there anymore.
Instead, take her arousal a step further by providing stimulation, with little pauses in between (orgastic peak) and she will achieve more instead of her levels exploding.
If you want to start becoming aware of the practice of Expanded Orgasm, start now with Tantric Therapy sessions.