What do they think about you?

It's very possible that you've also been taught that it's super important to follow the socially acceptable standard for most people in the culture you live in. Who has learned to meet the expectations of those around him to feel like he is doing “the right thing”. Who has been conditioned throughout life to act in a certain way in front of people, to say what they expect to hear, to have predictable behaviors, to use different social masks for each occasion: with family, at school, in a group religious, with friends, at work, in traffic, etc.

And that the words you really wanted to say, the expression of your emotions, the yes and no that you would like to sustain in different situations. Your truth is being oppressed, generating internal blockages that end up doing you enormous harm throughout your life.

Maturity, the therapies that we can allow ourselves to have, incredible people who are true angels that we meet, the awareness that we acquire along the way, can help us a lot to deconstruct the idea that we cannot be who we are.

It is clear that the education we receive and some conditions acquired in our history can be very useful and necessary, helping us to function in the world in the midst of the society in which we live. There are many important learnings in this regard.

What I mean is that not everything we end up seeing as absolute truths actually are. That we can break with standards, be honest with what we feel. Deny what we are not in the mood to do. Accept invitations even if they are too daring in the eyes of some, if we feel like it. Living a freer, more interesting, richer life, with new neural synapses all the time, allowing us to live the unknown.

Life is much more than learning a set of social rules and following the path they expect us to follow: studying, choosing a profession well regarded by society and considered a successful career and working in it until the end of our lives, getting married, having children , raise them and die.

We can experience life in its most varied nuances of colors, perfumes, flavors, textures, exchanges, sharing, learning, partnerships, constructions and deconstructions. Get out of the conditioning of obligations, shame, guilt, harshness, charges, judgments...

Bringing light to these questions, observing yourself and allowing yourself is opening yourself to life, this wonderful movement with countless possibilities at every moment. Knowing that one can choose differently from what is expected of us, and that it represents a real will of ours, can be transformative.

What they think of us is only what they think of us. Each person is a universe, and each one of them will see the world and the other from their lens, built according to their life story. And everything is fine. It's up to us not to care, to know that what belongs to the other belongs to the other.

If we know each other, we know who we are and we don't need the approval of the other, the endorsement to make our real choices. Worrying about other people's eyes and judgments about us is a big trap of the ego, with serious harmful consequences for our life. Be free of these pressures, listen to your inner truth and follow.

We are definitely not made of what others think. We don't have to experience life the way people expect us to. And knowing that is a gift, it's ceasing to be a cog in the social machine in which most of us find ourselves. Free yourself every day, delight in making your choices, respect yourself, welcome yourself, encourage yourself, give credit to your wills and celebrate each step towards the release of judgments and evil looks at your flight. Just fly! Pay attention to what makes your soul smile.

Lots of light for you!