Tantra and the gender revolution

The Gender Revolution Our vision and our discourse underwent a radical transformation. How is it possible that Shiva, the essence of consciousness, and Shakti, the essence of energy and strength, still end up being reduced to a man and a woman, to a pair of heterosexual lovers?
The Western mind argues that if tantra unites opposing poles, it must necessarily require the participation of two "opposing" genders (as if it existed!).
The genre is not of two drawers, between which all humanity must be divided: every day it becomes more evident that the genre is more like the spectrum of the rainbow, where everyone can find the shade of color that best suits them .
It is necessary for everyone to understand that not all people who identify as women have a vulva, and not all people who identify as men have a penis. More and more people are realizing that life is a perfect time to be what you want to be.
As people understand that genitalia is not gender equal, everything becomes more inclusive.
Therefore, whenever I work with this type of inter-anger, I base myself on effective communication without resorting to the usual names for the genitals, such as penis, vulva, yoni, lingam, among others. Instead, I pay attention to sensations. Often ñ naming the areas of the body, facilitates communication and reduces the interactor's sense of shame since, for many people, the traditional names from the perspective of gender x genitalia and their use act as a trigger for discomfort related to dysphoria of gender (feeling of being framed in someone whose emotional and psychological gender identity does not correspond with the sex assigned to her at birth). That is, focusing on that incompatibility - it couldn't generate more discomfort!
The exception to this name avoidance rule is when the interactor chooses to use a traditional name to better express their gender identity and find out what turns them on. For example, someone might want to try their lingam as a clitoris or vice versa. It may also happen that someone uses completely different terminology to describe your genitalia. In these cases, I use the terms that the person likes.
In this context, Tantra is capable of accepting and containing «All That Is».
Tantra is synonymous with deconstruction and this requires acceptance, as a therapist it is necessary to abandon any expectations, to be humble enough to first learn genital anatomy and then "unlearn" everything. That is: forgetting everything you think you know and then allowing yourself the true feeling to truly touch people. The experience of living openly with a trans or non-conformist gender identity is something relatively new in our world. Enabling the inclusion of someone who lives with that gender identity and/or expression is something so new and uplifting that it deserves all the love in the world. I feel honored to be a channel for this beautiful experience.