Sexual Patterns and Patriarchy

We know from knowledge, induction, perception or learning that our culture carries a male chauvinist matrix coming from firm patriarchal pillars that place not only men as an operative and dominating force, but also masculine energy and even academic and logical intelligence at the center of human appreciation.

These values ​​in terms of social concepts put us (men and women) visibly in areas of action where men and even women have to assume a posture in the patterns of Yang (masculine) energy so that their cycles and even vulnerabilities are hidden behind of a flawed system that does not supply the feminine order (Yin) as something healthy, natural and common within the social pillars.

Note that I am referring here to energies and not necessarily to gender. Both bodies in their energetic constitution have the two poles that complement and complete each other in an eternal dance of balance for human beings to live their nature.

In Tantra, this balance is not only aimed at, but is systematically worked on so that it achieves a harmonic dance between its parts and in the practical life of the human being. Bearing in mind that Tantra is about matriarchal plots, the teachings about our social roles are also distinguished from the culture itself, attenuating its divide on human behavior.

These teachings also go deep into the effective sexual relational system on which its pillars are based, where “the man must accept that a woman must lead the sexual game and must approach her with total respect for her femininity, opening himself to her sexuality as a woman”. . I'm not talking about a condescending understanding, but rather a deep realization of the formidable female sexual potential. For this there must be dialogue between the man and the woman, and it is a pity that she is so reticent when talking about sex.

Why not simply say what you expect from him? Why not let him know about your deep drives and desires? Why not become an initiator? It is often surprising the ignorance of certain men, reputed to be experts because they have known many women. I agree that tantra is not banal sex, but the tantric adept, Shiva or Shakti, must be able to satisfy the other, even in a “normal” relationship. In fact, the tantric union is only possible between partners capable of developed “ordinary” sexual relations.”

And when we talk about developed common relationships, I bring here the reflection on our social role in the company, in the family, with friends, children, colleagues, people from the same community, neighborhood or study group, dances or martial arts.

Tantra is based on a systemic-based relationship, where you align yourself with your role and understand the role of others, without this causing you noise. When one respects who one is and who the other is in its complexity, the basic treatment in relationships becomes profound and the sexual relationship to which so many seek tantric secrets becomes something accessible to the soul of that true seeker whose system no longer approaches its existence as a pawn.