Why can't I touch myself?

Masturbation is part of the natural process of developing sexuality. It's our first sexual relationship.

When a woman is unable to touch herself, has no interest or feels no pleasure from self-touch, several questions can be raised and that is what I will address.

We initially considered the information we received during childhood. Growing up hearing that your pussy is ugly, dirty, that you can't take it, that it is a sin, that you will be punished and such, can generate, at an unconscious level, the feeling of guilt and with that, even if you try, it is likely that don't succeed.

Another important point and reason for the main female sexual complaint, is the absence of orgasm.

Most women who seek tantric therapy have as their main complaint the absence of orgasm or anorgasmia.

Our body has the memory of all our experiences, good and bad. So, if the genital stimulus is not associated with a feeling of pleasure, why should I touch it?

If the body does not know pleasure from genital contact, it is common that this woman has no interest in masturbation and even avoids sexual contact.

Some practices of body therapy can help to break this type of block (in some cases psychotherapeutic monitoring is indicated and essential). Allow yourself to relax and explore your body. Close your eyes, use a good body oil and go touching the whole body.

Feel the skin, the shapes, touch the genitals gently, observe the sensations, do not rush to start masturbation. Here we want you to feel comfortable touching your body and notice the most subtle sensations.

If during the process you want to give up, take a moment, take a deep breath, use some body relaxation technique and start over. Remember, it is a process. And each body has a response time.

Calm! Breathe! Do not give up!

There are masturbation techniques and you may just need to find the most suitable one.
And remember that there are professionals prepared to help you in this awakening. The tantric therapist is today a trained professional who has effective resources to promote the sexuality development human