Female pleasure: how masturbation can boost your sexual energy

Art of Jana Brika

One of the most frequently asked questions I get is, "How do I have orgasms?" and one of these days, at the end of a tantric massage service, in addition to masturbation techniques, a 52-year-old woman said to me: “never in my life had I experienced anything like this, I have the feeling that I was sleeping all this time and now I woke up from a deep trance, can I already die? ”, at the time I replied“ not at all! Now that you have woken up, you need to live longer and continue to increase your orgasmic potential, enjoy it, don't waste any more time and masturbate ”.

When chatting is sexual pleasure, orgasm is literally at the top of conversations. And it is not for nothing. We usually think that having sex and feeling pleasure is natural and spontaneous. Only it is not so. The easiest and most affordable way to train yourself to have an orgasm is self-touch. When you touch yourself, you are not concerned with pleasing anyone and the anxiety is less.

This way you can focus on the sensations of your body, feel completely and explore your sensations for as long as you want.

Generally, in women, what produces orgasms at high levels, whether massaging or during penetration, is the clitoris. Do not ignore or underestimate it, it is powerful and a great ally to pleasure.

Clitoris

The clitoris is a large organ, it has a tip (glans of the clitoris) that is external, in the vulva, just above the urethra and an internal part, which covers the internal wall of the vulva and a part of the wall of the vagina canal.

Try not to touch it directly so as not to cause distress, touch around it, feel the entire extension above the body of the clitoris. Remember that the external part of the clitoris is accessible and that this is the organ that serves only and exclusively to give you pleasure. Start playing slowly.

Tip: The first few times you can use a water-based lubricating gel or vegetable oil of your choice to soften the touch.

The clitoris is very sensitive, so it is important to start touching the vulva, exploring the entire region and gradually approaching it. When you feel ready, you can use your natural lubrication, felt at the entrance to the vagina, to help slide your fingers around and over the clitoris.

At this stage, what matters is exploring the awakening of sensations. As they become more intense, take the opportunity to contract and release the muscles at the entrance of the vagina several times, as in a pomp, contract and hold for a few seconds and release, repeat a few times, in your time, because your body will talk to you, it is possible that during the contraction of your vagina, your body will respond with spasms, it is natural to enjoy these waves.

During this period it is very common to get distracted or afraid of new sensations and end up stopping masturbation. Do not be discouraged, resume stimulation if you need to and if your arousal is high, keep the pace until you feel that pleasure is increasing and arousal is rising, rising and rising.

In general, when orgasm happens, soon after you don't want to touch yourself anymore, everything will be very sensitive. You may feel tingling or your body may be pulsating. Some women experience contractions more in the vagina and anus, and still others everywhere. All of this is normal.

Enjoy the sensations and remember to keep training always.

If even with these tips, you still find it difficult to feel orgasms, talk to a Tantric Sexuality Specialist, don't waste time!

Difficulties to feel orgasm have a solution.

I'm here to help you.

With love, Lídia Madhuri.