We want to open the relationship. And now?

During the pandemic, many couples realized that the relationship had started or was already "cold". The idea of ​​opening a relationship is initially born from discomfort experienced within the relationship, for example, sex has fallen into routine, feeling desire and attraction for other people, wanting to experience new relationships and affections, that is, it is not born from a place where promotes the need for autonomy and expression as an individual and as a couple.

Will opening the relationship help me in any way? It depends. It is important to have dialogue so that the couple can express what their need is as an individual and as a couple. Many couples find it difficult to express their desires and needs and this is culturally linked to the way in which our society judges as right or wrong within a relationship with values ​​pre-established by the Church.

There are some points that you need to consider if you want to open the relationship:

1.What is your need for an open relationship?
2.How did you arrive at this idea?
3. How can an open relationship help you in this moment of life?
4. Why is making the transition from monogamy to non-monogamy important to you?
5.What do you consider as treason?
6.What are your expectations with this new relationship format?

These are some points you can start to address within your relationship with your partner. In addition to aligning expectations about living an open relationship. Some people have the need to open the relationship because our society has been asking for new models of relationship beyond the monogamous model. The reasons are numerous in addition to feeling attraction to other people and the challenge of living with the feeling of guilt because of a betrayal.


During the pandemic, many couples were faced with an outdated relationship that remains in the routine, the desire to try something new whether alone or as a couple can be a very rich experience as long as you have pre-established agreements, remembering that these agreements can change over time. throughout the dynamics of the relationship.

I am a Sexologist and I work with couples who want to experience new experiences in their relationship, a good therapeutic approach can reduce the risks involved, offer support and support for the couple. Count on me for this new experience