(Re)Sexual Education and Tantra

The talk here is about the domination of a patriarchal system to which patterns of behavior are still very much demanded today and even replicated. This extinguishes not only the way in which we express ourselves, but we also relate in general. Lysebeth in her book: Tantra, the Cult of Femininity, portrays how this prison engages us in discourses, behavioral patterns, even sexual ones, and how it represses a modus operandi that puts us in front of our essence, in exchange for honors to systems , from family members to socio-politicians.

These behavioral replicas can be passed on from fathers to sons and daughters, mothers to sons and daughters, from social influence groups, television programs and films, including pornography, advertisements, social media, and so on. If we don't stop to pay attention, it can go unnoticed as a simple way of “seeing and living the world”.

“In the patriarchal regime, in the sexual act, the active role is up to the man; the penis is the essential organ, and the vagina is but a pleasant receptacle. The penis penetrates, comes and goes, imposes its rhythm, enjoys, that is, ejaculates; and the male is satisfied or, at least, satisfied with it. Centuries of male dominance make women accept this passive role normally and settle down. Even the etymology is eloquent: vagina comes from the Latin "case, sheath", and the Dutch cards or German vagina they indistinctly designate the sheath of a sword or the vagina. Of course, the sword is the main object, the scabbard just a simple protective role. (...) The systematic repression of sexuality made many boys, especially in religious establishments, still ignore, at the age of eighteen, some until marriage, what the woman's sex was like; the anatomy course forgot this “detail”! If I could have, I believe I would have even hidden the existence of our own genitals!”

In this socio-political-educational game, where to talk about sexuality in an enlightening way in terms of anatomy and even emotional responsibility, which is intimately making the bridge between the biological physical body and the use of its energy in a conscious and responsible way, losing are all of us. Simple masses of condensed maneuvers and reduced to a replicative game of experiences and systematic pillars which lead us to an abyss of reactivities in life as a whole.

The Tantra path teaches us to look consciously without judgment at these parts and release them one by one as they appear, and that takes a certain amount of time (yours). When faced with removing the fabric that surrounds it and lovingly integrating the parts that ask for healing, the first thing we experience is the release of feminine energy in us, regardless of its biological representation.

Healed and released feminine energy is receptive energy, it is flow and natural order, it is the child's healing with the mother, with ancestry and with female pain and pleasure, with universal unconditional love. That healed part is power of expression and creativity and fluid sexual / vital energy. Automatically your sexual / vital energy in expression through your sexuality changes completely and this is legitimately expressed even in how you conduct sexual intercourse.

“The man must accept that the woman must conduct the sexual game and must approach her with total respect for her femininity, opening up to her sexuality as a woman. I am not talking about a condescending understanding, but mainly about the profound perception of the formidable sexual potential of women. For that, there must be dialogue between the man and the woman, and it is a pity that she is so reticent when talking about sex. Why not simply say what you expect from him? Why not inform him about your deep drives and desires? Why not become an initiator? The ignorance of certain men, who are reputed to be experts because they have met many women, is surprising. I agree that tantra is not banal sex, but the tantric adept, shiva or shakti, must be able to satisfy the other, even in a "normal" relationship. In fact, tantric union is only possible between partners capable of developed “common” sexual relations. ”

This opening first comes from an individual merit of conducting all your relationships in a healthy way for yourself, even those that are not ordinary to the most intimate, including your sexual drives and admitting them to yourself and to anyone you are relating to. By mastering just that step, which is already huge to lead your lives, your relationship with your own sexuality changes and that changes the sexual energy factor that also influences everything in our lives.

Self-knowledge leads us to a liberation from deep dogmas and acceptance of our parts to which the completeness of the system in harmony with the whole capable of becoming a success to ourselves in leading our lives, and this does not exempt us from mistakes and stumbles. However, the openness to this energy of knowledge and healing of our feminines opens us up to a depth with everything that surrounds us, and this also includes our sexual relations, that nothing that does not demand space and presence, fluidity and pleasure does not demand space for us. to be cloistered in ourselves.