Conscious Relationship and Sexuality

Whether you like it or not ... relationships have played an important role in the life of every human being, since the beginning of time. There are several types of relationships that range from the family relationship to the commercial relationship, through the relationship between couple and sex. I will explore some aspects that relate to the relationship with your partner.

I will use the term partner, just to make it easier to develop ideas, but it applies and can be understood as multi-gender (HH, HM, M-M, among others).

This information can help you discover paths and deepen the relationship with your partner in order to intensify the search for this relationship in a more conscious way. We all have a desire for a connection, union and relationship with the partner so that there is a fusion between the two resulting in a condition of perfect lovers. I will simplify this search in points to increase sexuality and the conscious relationship of the couple.

Let's say that the perfect partner does not exist, but we also cannot forget about your inner man / woman. How to deepen your existing relationship? How to approach the partner you have?

There are four very well woven doors in this game and the 4 keys to open them are: basic, openness, sensitivity and discovery

More intimacy in your relationship - keys

Basic: it is your existential base (physical / emotional / mental / spiritual), that is, the state you are in. Are you ready for a relationship? The more relaxed you become (here is a state of relaxation and not relaxed without taking care of yourself), the more balanced, more mature and the better the starting point for deepening your relationship.

Opening: This key has to do with how accessible you are. Are you ready to change? The more honest you show yourself, the deeper the motivating force that will make the couple grow together. Can you reveal your secrets? Share what's inconvenient for you? Are you willing to expose those secrets that you don't even like to think about? Know that the more you are really willing to open up, the more you can see. Can you let go of your beliefs and really see, hear the other? Only then can you receive your partner as he really is.

Sensitivity: That key is about your emotional sensitivity and your real access to your emotions. Can you be in close contact with your emotions? Are you able to express your emotions without any kind of mask? Can you understand the subtler aspects of your intuitive being and your relationship ends up being a strong connection with your true self? Always remember that this is a two-way street. If you can tune into your partner's more sophisticated signals, the depth of your relationship will increase.

Discovery: Deepening your relationship is really very simple, although it does require some dedication and willpower. You must find a point in your conscious base that provides a condition of being open to what is to come, be sensitive and keep discovering yourself. Without discovering new possibilities, your relationship may be dying! If you want to continue to know your partner, continuous and partnership growth is possible. Most of the time, the initiative to continue to discover the potential and the intimate of the partner occurs in one direction and must run in the other as well and when realizing this, one begins to identify with this search for discovery. One thing is certain in life: Changes (they occur at all levels and all the time), so be curious, see new things all the time.

The fact of seeking knowledge and the discovery of the other, will also mean an internal growth for you. Discovery is about the desire to see and the desire to grow, but an attitude like "I have seen everything", shows that you are blocking yourself and are not open to deepen your relationship.

The moment you start making discoveries, you will go through one of the 4 connection points with your partner: Body, Mind, Heart and Soul.

Body

Having a physical and sexual relationship with your partner is beautiful. Touch, intimacy, sexuality are essential needs of human beings and are aspects of the relationship. This physical relationship can deepen without stopping. After all, if you are open, sensitive and want to find out more about your partner's body, you will end up finding ways to explore this body more, such as using sensitive massage (but always changing movements) in addition to being together, touching, hugging kissing and making love together.

Mind

The human mind is a complex of secrets and potential personalities that are surrounded by mysteries that our conscious mind is often unaware of. At the beginning of a relationship, we tell each other who we are, what we experience, what we think, what dreams we have, but often it is all part of a game to attract and capture the partner. At this moment we look for similarities, we often repel differences. A potentially endless process of discovering each other must be carried out in a conscious way, because with each phase of life, which corresponds to approximately 7 years, we now have new internal directions provided by new sensations and mysteries revealed. From these new discoveries (open and sensitive), there is a deepening of intimacy, the rebirth of love. In mind, we started making new plans and projected our dreams and future life together, in an increasing level of relationship.

Heart

The mind is selective, the body has preferences, but the heart is unconditional, often not understood. If the conscious love of the mind moves to the unlimited and unconditional love of the heart, you have arrived in a whole new area. This is an area where your inner energy plays a more important role

important than the outside. An energetic area where the fusion with the heart occurs. At this moment, this union between the heart and the mind moving in the same direction and in synergy between them and between the partners, resulting in a unique relationship condition. Where love is no longer exclusive and selective, but abundant and flows for both and for others. Like a flower that spreads its perfume, even if no one is there.

Alma

The soul is an energetic field of being, where radiations and auras, where physical and mental limits disappear completely and we feel merged. A different consciousness ends up, where you don't even know where you end and your partner starts. Where you get a collective aura. Where you merge into the ocean of the couple's existence. An area in which time, place and form take the opportunity to coexist.

In practice, you can have access to several points that can allow you to deepen your relationship and these deepening is endless. The most important thing is to practice these experiences together. Just let it flow and evolve. There are 3 central points that must be worked on in this construction during the journey with your partner: Take care, Take care of your Partner and Focus on the couple's union.

Take care

1. Do you know yourself? Do you love yourself? If you don't love yourself or don't know yourself, how can you love another person? Tantra can greatly assist in self-discovery or self-knowledge. Find a way to meet your inner self and start loving yourself!

2. Day-to-day life can end up being exhausting. Rest, make sure you are recovering your energy! Remember that in the beginning you let go and used a lot of energy in the routine of captivating and capturing your partner. Why not use some of the current energy to maintain it?

3. We have many blocks related to our conscious and a large number of blocks in our subconscious that we don't even know exist. Get rid of your irritations and blockages. Recognize your emotional patterns using meditative tantra techniques.

4. Acknowledge your needs and wants. Speak! Go ahead! Dare to live, don't be so afraid. You need to break the fear barrier. It is hard, resistant and painful, but with help and meditations you will gradually be able to break these barriers. Let your life be guided by the desires of your heart. Take a chance!

5. Stay focused on what you are determined to do. Choose a more internal focus, less focused on external "objects". What you most want in your heart. Activation of chakras through meditations can assist you in capturing constructive energies to maintain focus and even potentiate the energy for your dreams!

Take care of your partner

1. Does he have a big, chubby nose, full of quirks? Does it have something that you would like to be different? Let your heart guide you and accept the partner as he is. Connect with the basic energy and love between you.

2. There is no point in lying or hiding things. When there is this harmony in the conscious relationship, the unconscious can detect and identify these lies. This attunement will exist over time. Be open and honest. Share with your partner what you feel, be his partner.

3. Give your partner full support, but without believing inconsequentially. Be positive! Partner support will be essential in building the relationship of this union. One day you will support and the next day you will be supported. Don't wait for support to start on the other side, as he may be expecting the same thing. Begin you to support him.

4. As well as partner support, donate! Donate love, donate support, donate support, donate recognition. Put your ego aside, even if you are hurt, but donate to your partner. Here, it will also be a fundamental point for the construction of a conscious relationship when a two-way donation flow occurs between the couple. When the donation is one way, the union will be compromised. Another important point here is not to suffocate the partner with excessive donation and to end up moving away instead of approaching the partner.

5. Listen to your partner, participate in your dreams! Often, we end up not supporting the partner's dreams because we think they are above the possible reality or we don't believe in the partner's potential. At this point we need to reflect: What is impossible? Once something has not been done yet, it does not mean that it is impossible, but we must be aware of what can really be achieved. Support your dreams! Better yet, share your dreams with him! This can make all the difference!

Focus on the couple's union

1. Quantity is not quality !!! Doing it several times without care is different from doing it once with love, dedication and care. Offer quality time, put everything aside and focus on the partner, paying full attention to each other and being in the present in the here and now.

2. Diversify with the partner. Change your patterns, your regular routines, the word is INNOVATION! It doesn't have to be always and not every day or in the same way, but the variation takes the relationship to another level. Remember that innovation needs to be good for both! Bolder innovations must be shared with the partner before they can be carried out.

3. Meditate, massage together, bathe together! Do everything with energy, presence, and sometimes without words, discover "unity"!

4. Accept male / female differences (inside). You and your partner can fluctuate in the relationship by exchanging each other's main energy between Shiva (male energy) and Shakti (female energy). We all have the male and female energies within us. This does not interfere with each other's sexuality, but it does release a condition of energy flow that may be stopped within you. Shiva, release Shakti within you, and Shakti, release the Shiva within you. At this time, only couples more attuned to each other managed to mutate the energy and return to the initial energy in a subtle way, without causing wear and tear. Experience this energy.

5. Losing a dispute, point of view or discussion to your partner is part of the power of the conscious relationship between the couple. This goes beyond sexuality, it is a way of experiencing union. Adopt this dispute and keep on a healthy level, consciously, adore existence as a couple!

You must dedicate some time and energy in building and improving the relationship with your partner, but I can guarantee that the fruits will be very comforting!