If you want to grow, open up!

"Yes. I don't want to show myself or others."

But you have to decide that. This is one of the most basic things to understand - that you are responsible for yourself, no one else. You have to take responsibility. If you want to grow, open up. If you don't want to grow, then stay closed - but it is your responsibility.

When I say responsible, I mean responding to the situation in which you find yourself. If you don't answer, this is your decision. Always remember that if you don't want to grow, there is no way to help you. It is nobody's business. The group leader, the group, will help, but if you want to hide there is no way to get inside you.

If you see it is silly to hide, silly to hold on, then let go of this stupidity. And don't ask me how to let go. Has no way. You just see the point - that it's useless - and you let go. Letting go, the person learns to let go.

Whatever you are trying to hide is not valid. It is not a treasure to be hidden! It's your disease! And why be afraid of these people? They are not there as judges. You will never find another opportunity in life where people are not judging you. This is the point of the whole group - that the people who are there are not judging. They are not condemning you in any way.

If you show your anger and your hatred or your real face, they will not say that you are bad, that you are a criminal, a sinner. They are not popes or priests, and they will not judge.

In fact they will say that you are true. They will appreciate that you are honest, sincere about yourself; that you are aware and can open your heart without fear. You are not a coward.

This is the beauty of a growth group that gives you an opportunity that is not available in the ordinary world. If the world were to grow properly, this opportunity would be available all over the world, everywhere: in the market, in the temple, in the church, in school, in college. Then there would be no more need for groups and you would be accepted anywhere. No one would be judging you and everyone would try to help you. People would appreciate that you are sincere.

This is not possible in the world at large, so groups are necessary; a closed family in which everyone is willing to open up. But when others are opening, it is easier to open, it is contagious.

When you see that nobody opened up and nobody condemned him, nobody had any judgment about it, by opening up, the person reached a freedom ... You can see it in your face, you can feel the vibration, you can see some changes happening in your space. It is no longer the same as being contracted. It is like a flower blooming and you can see the glow that comes from this opening. You can see the relaxed grace. The dignity that comes to the person.