Feeling or fantasizing?

So-called "psychogenic pleasures" are those that originate in the mind, not the body. Ask yourself: to satisfy your sexual desire, most of the time you need a characterization - linking the sexual act to performance and visual stimuli? If the answer is yes, you are just stimulating your brain to create sensations of pleasure and so you are not feeling the body - it may be that your body is not even asking for pleasure, it may just be an unconscious escape; a momentary satisfaction in trying to change your inner reality. This can even motivate sexual compulsions. Do you know when you are having sex and you start to feel like you are "missing something"? This something is nothing more than the lack of bodily pleasure, of feeling your body. When was the last time you had sex without needing to perform - forced faces and mouths, fetishes and stimulating words? When was the last time you masturbated without stimulation, like a porn movie or any erotic fantasy? Since you got to know and understand your sexuality, you learned that in order to have an orgasm, you need to look for these types of "triggers", and then you end up resorting to psychogenic pleasures at the expense of bodily pleasures. And with that, over time, your body begins to go into a state of numbness - with low sensory perception - and your orgasms are short and without quality. It's time to relearn about sex and pleasure, surrender to the senses of your body and your inner reality, to release all those dormant sensations, and have expanded, intense orgasms. Touch yourself consciously, be present in the sensations, and feel every region of your body without thinking about anything. Do the same in sexual intercourse: start by feeling the person, touch and feel each part of that skin gently, feel yours on her skin, smell it, surrender to this feeling completely, without focusing on the genital and reach orgasm; In this delight of real sensations from your body, you stimulate the sensory and not the mental. I guarantee that after learning that feeling is better than fantasizing, you will have your best orgasms.

Allow yourself!