Separating orgasm and ejaculation

Why have sex and not ejaculate?

For many people, the climax of sex is the moment of orgasm and ejaculation: an explosive energy (orgasm) followed by a great release of tension in the body after an eventual ejaculation.

However, did you know that you can have an orgasm without ejaculating? By practicing certain sexual techniques, it is possible to have an orgasm and be able to withhold ejaculation. In fact, you're more likely to have a full-body orgasm, where orgasmic energy fills your entire body and leaves you with a tingling, energized feeling rather than an ejaculation hangover. There's also no 'recovery time' so you can keep enjoying orgasms one after the other.

Another reason to try it is that women usually take a little longer than men to get turned on. Once awakened, they may remain on an orgasmic plateau for some time. By learning to separate orgasm from ejaculation, you can stay in sync with your partner and enjoy this connection together longer.

It is a very personal choice for a man to practice non-ejaculation. We're not talking about finishing before climax, or tightly contracting your pelvic muscles to prevent ejaculation. There is ancient science behind this, and with a simple daily practice, you can learn to control your ejaculation. Daily exercises are great for helping with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation problems. You can also receive support through individual bodywork sessions with Tantric Therapy Therapists.

Full Body Orgasm: How It Feels

How does it work if you don't ejaculate? In tantric traditions, men learn how to harness orgasmic energy and move it throughout the body. This may seem mystical, but it is possible to bring sexual energy from the base of the spine to the top of the head (and back down again), using the breath and self-awareness. This can create very pleasurable experiences alone or with a partner. You can even direct this life force to parts of the body that are low on energy or that need healing for both you and your partner.

Moving sexual energy with a partner can create a strong love connection. When you learn to circulate energy between the two of you, from the genitals to the heart, many other parts of the body will begin to experience orgasm as well.

There are many different orgasmic experiences to explore when you can separate orgasm from ejaculation, lasting longer. For many practitioners, the 'sublimation' of sexual energy upwards through the heart to the top of the head (the crown chakra) is part of sacred sexuality and a path to spiritual awakening.

Ejaculation and 'Happy Hormones'

Dopamine, one of the "happiness hormones", is released when you are aroused. However, after ejaculation, a man's system will slow down production of dopamine to give the body time to recharge and recover. It does this by producing prolactin, a substance that neutralizes testosterone, and releasing serotonin, which can make you want to sleep.

The good news is, if you have an orgasm and you don't ejaculate, you'll still have a rush of endorphins and oxytocin. Oxytocin is the 'hug hormone', which is released through loving touch and creates a bond between people. Endorphins act as a sedative and can even decrease the body's perception of pain.

How does ejaculation and orgasm really happen?

First, take a quick look at how orgasm and ejaculation actually happen.

Ejaculation usually begins during the first or second contraction of orgasm, and then pulses of semen begin to flow from the urethra. After the first orgasmic contraction, ejaculation usually cannot be stopped.

However, orgasm actually begins before semen is released, and there is a short delay before the ejaculation reflex kicks in. This short interval can be the starting point for learning non-ejaculation using a combination of breathing, relaxation, and gentle pelvic muscle control.

How Tantric Sessions Can Help You Become Multiorgasmic

Many people are intimidated by the prospect of being able to control their ejaculation, although they would like to learn how to become multiorgasmic. Qualified therapists are professionally trained to support men in separating orgasm and ejaculation and moving sexual energy throughout the body.

A first step in a session is to identify any physical, emotional and energetic blocks in the body and help you to release them as this will affect the movement of sexual energy. Relaxation is also an important part of the session. There may also be trauma stored in the pelvic area or other parts of the body. Many people also seek support with erection problems and premature ejaculation, and pelvic floor bodywork can be very beneficial for this as a basis for becoming multi-orgasmic.

It takes dedication and self-practice to learn these techniques, not to please everyone. However, the reward is being able to travel longer with your partner, exploring the potential of orgasmic energy for pleasure and well-being.

Find a therapist near you

If you are interested in learning more about tantric practices or need support with sexual and intimacy issues, find a therapist near you here on the Network.

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Namaste