Am I a brooch?

He was kind of sad. Had ended a long relationship 5 months ago. I was trying to be okay. I felt I had to do something about it, go out, meet other people, react.

He found an acquaintance on the social network. It had been many years since I had seen her. He looked at the photos and saw that she was still beautiful, interesting and single. Added. She said hello. They started talking and arranged a meeting. She liked him too and they went to sex on their first date.

He was horny. I was nervous too. It had been a long time since he only had sex with his ex-girlfriend and he was a little tense with the new situation. He lost his erection while putting on a condom. He got even more nervous. From then on, he couldn't relax anymore. All I could think about was the shame I was feeling and the erection didn't come back.

She understood, they talked a little and each went home.

They spoke more often through WhatsApp and arranged another meeting. The day before he was already worried about how it would be during sex.

He left the house with cold hands. They ate dinner and went to her house. He didn't want her to notice he was nervous. Well disguised. But then... Had even less erection this time.

He left embarrassed and terrified. He didn't sleep well for a week. He thought he had turned into a broach.

I've heard stories like this many times. There is an episode of loss of erection and a vicious circle of worry and negative situations begins that gets worse and worse.

When thinking about sex, this man remembers less of the pleasure and more of the fear of "failing". That's why fear becomes reality. Pleasure becomes distant, frustration becomes more and more present.

Tantric massage helps to break this negative cycle. Negative registers dissolve through pleasure. Being in the situation of receiving a massage allows self-observation and perceiving beliefs related to sexuality, the need for performance, fears, feeling responsible for the woman's pleasure, etc.

With tantric massage the man can free himself from concepts that hinder him in his sexual life. He can feel pleasure again and even start to have more pleasure than he had before this whole problem happened.