about how we react

It is very common for us not to relate to situations before reacting to them. We often end up doing this automatically, acting on the first response already known in our mind about how to handle this type of situation.

Our memory keeps recording the experiences we live and conditioning in a way to repeat them when we are in a similar situation. And most of the time, we end up discarding the possibility of doing things differently, of looking for a new behavioral alternative, a new look at the situation, a better way of acting, and we simply react as if by instinct, quickly and in the way we came to mind at first.

Becoming a more present person helps us to see beyond the first possibility. To receive the situation and learn to relate to it, without the need to respond immediately. We are conditioned to immediacy and find that thinking a little before responding can make us appear unintelligent or ineffective.

Of course, there are situations that do demand an immediate response, which are urgent and need to be resolved in a fraction of a second. These are not the situations I am referring to now, but the ones that we deal with most of the time, and that we can think about, ponder, look for the best ways to react before responding to them. And if we are in the habit of doing this, it will certainly reflect the quality of immediate decisions that we need to deal with in life as well.

It can be a good option, before acting automatically and giving an answer that we may later regret, or having attitudes that leave us sad and feeling guilty later, it is to try to be aware of yourself, know yourself, know how it works in world, perceive how you react to situations, observe, be present, aware, stop, ponder, think and ask yourself:

"How can I smooth this out?"

"Is that my best expression?"

"Is that my light expression?"

"Is this the expression of love?"

"Is this the expression of my soul?"

"What would love do in this situation?"

(Questions suggested by friend and psychologist Cláudia Ede in a chat, and that make total sense to me).

By answering these questions, it is very possible that you will be very clear about the situation and how best to react to it. Listen carefully to the response that comes from within, do not resist. And find the best possibilities to deal with the situations that are presented to you.

And take care! Take care of yourself, so that you can keep your vibration high and leave the programming of automatic reactions, certainly in this direction, we will reduce our speeches and attitudes that could harm anyone else or ourselves.

Much love on your walk!