About penetration and presence.

When you are not at home, do you allow someone to come and visit you? Or, do you visit someone who is not to receive you? If it seems somewhat devoid of sense and rationality, after all to receive someone you need to be present, or to be present, to be received, I think, in fact, what connotes the word presence in its potential sense?

According to the Dictionary (whichever you search for), it is a feminine noun, given to the fact of -something or someone- being somewhere; attendance, or even the "fact of - something or someone - to exist somewhere, existence. So, to visit some place intentionally, you enter / enter the supposed and inviting space, and, seeking support on the expression in the same way as the previous one, when you enter, the verb enter / penetrate you ¹locates or passes from outside to inside, it pours its waters in, it flows out, it is poured, from one place to another.

A feminine noun, accompanied by a verb. Verb, masculine noun, ¹word, speech, which from the semantic point of view we have the notion of action or state. And not forgetting that the bible itself refers to the Word in a somewhat significant and substantial way:

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
He was in the beginning with God.
Everything was done by him; and nothing that has been done has been done without it.
In it was life, and life was the light of men. ” (John 1:1-4)

Theme of the first chapter of Genesis that mentions and resumes the initial creation of the universe, and, before taking them to the summit of the mountain to which I glimpse a certain horizon, with a clear intention of taking them to the same contemplation, they manage to conceive the importance of the true presence to enter any space, including one's own?

Women, when you leave home, allow someone to enter your sacred space without your presence? When they are at home, do they receive anyone who enters their temple anyway, or do they receive them even without the slightest desire to have visitors? Men, when someone invites you to enter a certain environment, do you go anyway, sitting with legs almost complete a 180 ° angle supporting your foot on the central glass table? Or do they even realize that there is no one to welcome them in anyway? Obviously my visual appeal when dealing with male / female gender is only a reference to energy poles, Yin / Yang, Shakti / Shiva, and energy polarities are not limited to biological issues synthesized to genitals, but energetic forces, and that it does not depend on your physical body, but on an energy pattern and how it exerts strength and form through you.

This force and form in an act of penetrating and allowing oneself to penetrate, is not limited to the superficiality of the act, but it reaches such a depth that those who are unaware of themselves, are capable of being invaded and invading unconsciously causing pain, (re ) trauma, (re) abandonment and voids capable of being deeper than canyons and chasms, placing us at the margin of projected perceptions of the other, even if the latter never intended to cause such emotional bruises, such consternation.

To delegate to the other the power of total satisfaction with your presence, does not make him / her the best of the visits or perhaps the best of the hosts. The space of full and non-transferable satisfaction is your own role. The sense of presence of / with another, is only affirmed when his sense of presence is totally full and sure of himself. After all, you will know exactly about your own times and spaces in terms of whether or not you receive someone in your sacred space, or whether you have the honor of receiving someone's invitation to space.

One of the keys to the Tantric path is depression, that is, everything that is absolutist in the way your behavior and relational bases should be composed, everything that has you in tyrannical reins shaping you just like any external environment that does not correspond within, it will inevitably cause you pain, because you do not exercise the absolute competence of your being. And in order to play a natural role in your existence, you need to know yourself in such depth that it does not bother you or cause noise to be who you really are, for a thousand fears of not being accepted by any means that makes up your surroundings. After all, you have an inner marriage unshakable by any other socio-cultural / parental-relational structure.

When I refer here to presence, I also bring all your faults. When you allow someone to your space, this movement occurs due to lack (?), Not exercising the inner silence (?) And needing someone to fill spaces or any type of revenge that is not the enjoyment of the other's company (?) due to any other pain that caused you to feel abandoned? When you enter a space, you enter aware of the honor of that invitation (?), Understand the importance of such permission (?), Or go because you do not support your presence for a long time and since the other requested it, why not?

When you are in that space, you are willing to listen and be heard(?), to feel and be felt(?), to touch and be touched(?), to respect and be respected(?) with all the nuances that Do they accompany you and whoever accompanies you right now? At the time of the visit, billets flying around her head appear, a relational trauma caused by someone from the past who hurts her knees from crying while crouching in the shower, a persistent and constant speech of "-did I turn off the gas ?”, “- is that movie already out of the cinema?”, questioning between one breath and another. You're breathing while you're in each other's company, or your hurried speech almost melts into apnea.

Such a profound act, often relegated to the periphery of body satisfaction, but with a little awareness and observation and presence of oneself and the other, a small glimpse of distinct universes in itself and in the other becomes an act, which, in its hitherto superficial exercise brings about its particular mention of a new universe, its particular Genesis from the full presence in oneself and in the other. Nothing is incomplete, nothing is missing, and everything from then on is a full co-creation of two individuals who already belonged to themselves even before dividing their spaces and belonging to each other, without losing their own references.

And this full energy in and of itself, can take you beyond the creative power of life, generating life and vitality, and so many other potentials in a space you never imagined, dissolving into limits where you will never feel invaded by something or someone. This is the energy that Tantra co-creates with you from the moment you become aware of your space, your places, your lacks and failures, your memories, your potencies, your presence, your entering and your motivations , of your verb and your actions.

Be yours, be loving, be present, be welcoming, be free and be from the entire universe without any mold that reduces you to being where you are not. Be Gods and Goddesses as a whole and in the whole universe endowed with action and manifestation.

Sasha Cali - Tantric Therapist

[art "Penetration"by Alicja Wysocka]