I suffer from anxiety, insecurity and jealousy: what do I do?

You brought in your message the desire to work on aspects of your personality that resulted in anxiety, insecurity, jealousy, etc.

I would like to say that tantric body therapy is very interesting as a way for you to deepen and, consequently, reframe these behaviors.

I think the starting point for introducing you to the approach is to say that we create movements to separate our emotional and energetic bodies, inspired by the socio-cultural context to which we are inserted. Since we were little we are oriented to contain and control our feelings. Expressions of anger, sadness, fear, joy must be controlled, as there is a model that says what we should be. This model is the only one that our parents, teachers and other affective caregivers knew how to use. Thus, since we were children, we are seen as a blank sheet that needs to be shaped to meet these ideal models, that is, "to work".

But this happens at the expense of learning to control (and repress) our emotional expressions, which are actually natural and organic expressions of energy flows. In controlling them, we inevitably develop what Freud called neuroses, which are states of withdrawal from our vitalized and confident nature. Subsequently to Freud, Reich went deeper into this theme, and proved how much we learned (silently, non-verbally and unconsciously) to control in our bodies these energetic emotional expressions. Thus, we created a more or less robust set of breastplates, which are actually states of tension that prevent flows of bioelectricity from circulating freely. In addition, we learn to control our breathing, inhibiting the connection with true feelings, thus opening space for our ego dimension to "invent" new states that are more similar to that ideal model that affective caregivers presented us and hoped we would follow. streak, avoiding any "deviation".

Now, our ego dimension lives on our surface, intermediating our relationship with the environment around us, the people and the tasks we perform. If we create muscular armor, inevitably we create obstacles so that our ego dimension could perceive what our reality is.

For Tantra, we are perfect as we are. There is no need to say that we are moving away from the ideal model, because this ideal model is an illusion created with the false premise that we must be something that does not necessarily serve us (although our mind often believes that yes, we should really be what they presented us with ideal model).

For Tantra, the only thing that really exists is who you are now, right now. And in this instant you are the sum of all the events you have witnessed and interacted with, the happy and the painful moments, the moments of relaxation and tension. The most important thing is that you, at this moment, are still not your best version, because you, like me and the others, are beings under construction. This construction should not be based on a place to be reached, an ideal model to be reached. The construction will be more interesting if it is based on a creative dialogue with what is real. Right now, what is real is that you feel anxiety, insecurity, jealousy and such. But you are not this, these states do not define you; they are just the result of the state of repression that you have built up around your flows of energy and emotional expression. Back then, his egoic dimension believed that he would be free of unwanted effects if he suppressed certain unwanted feelings, certain expressions that "should" be controlled. By suppressing them, he stored them in a pressure cooker strategically placed in our guts, cherished in a constant fire by our pulse of life. Because, whether you wanted to or not, we all have a life drive, we were programmed like this by existence. Some of us are very successful in deactivating this pulse of life (see depressive states). Thus, we find ways to die in life.

Our role as body therapy is to create the field of trust for you to begin the movement of distensioning the structures created by you to prevent you from seeing your creative potential, your potential to create the path you will walk, regardless of the model you were told you should follow. The model you will follow should concern your choices and your potential.

Let me talk about jealousy. Behind these states what works is the fear of losing, the attachment to something that we are supposed to feel ownership. Think of a river. Every drop of water that navigates this river is in a constant flow, which occurs at different speeds. Sometimes there is even an absence of movement, other times there is a whirlwind of movement.

For the drop that is in the river, it is not clear where it is going. In fact, it is not clear what will come after the next turn. If the drop of water trusts the wisdom of this river, it will appreciate every landscape that unfolds, feeling absolutely privileged by the fact that, after the next curve, a new landscape will come that I have never seen before. And she knows that this landscape that is being seen at the moment is impermanent, it will never be seen again. And that there is wisdom around it.

Now, if the drop in the river does not trust the wisdom of that process, all it wants is to find security. All she wants is to find a landscape that signals that she will be safe and protected there, and when the drop finds this landscape (or thinks she found it), there will be an intense struggle to hold on to the bank and stay there forever, safely, free from the "threats" of continuing along the river.

We do this in our affective relationships. We want to be saved, to be rescued, to be welcomed by the other. Basically, what we want is to avoid going with the river, because we think that we are very inadequate to deal with this flow that heads towards the unknown.

And so we feed states of struggle! Our jealousy seems to be manifestations of the fear of losing, by attaching to something that we believe will save me from the flow of life, which heads towards the unknown. We all feel this, and we should realize that it is okay to feel jealous or any other emotional manifestation. The problem is that we lose the privileged perception of what are the motivations behind these states. The problem is not to welcome our frightened child who sees that person (or situation) as the only answer that would take me out of dangerous situations.

I said all of this above to show you the vision of Tantra and our therapeutic work.

We want people who come to us to find their own vitality, because it is there, it is in all of us. We also want that, from this encounter with your vitality, with your pulse of life, the weapons that keep you in states of struggle are kept by yourself (to feel, not to feel, to reach the model, to repress the pains, fears, insecurities, to prove something to others, to prove something to their ego dimension, etc ...).

We want people who come to us to find his body alive! And rescue the life of your physical, energetic, emotional and spiritual body.

To create this field of trust, we will guide you in dynamics that involve breathing, movement and sound. We use breathing therapies for this, we use powerful active meditations, we use pulsation techniques. And, depending on your most specific search, we can also guide you in tantric massage techniques, which work directly in the creation of differentiated orgasmic states.

Whatever the therapeutic path, the construction exists for you to recover a state of vitality that allows you to glimpse exactly where you are repeating patterns and attitudes that no longer make sense for your personal process, but with which your ego dimension is indeed identified.

Tell me if this dialogue makes sense in your search!