Tantra and Sexuality - an interview with Deva Nishok

This is an interview that was granted by email to Men's Health Magazine, on 14/05/2015. Due to the importance of the information described by Deva Nishok, we decided to publish it here on our blog. Check out!

Question: Our society is very immediate, there is a demand that everything happens quickly. Do you think this is also reflected in sex?

Deva Nishok: I would say that this is reflected first in sex. Our society underestimates the importance of sex, neglecting its knowledge and devaluing its proper orientation. We forget that sex is the basis of life, where life comes from and around which life develops. The procreative aspect is the most important function of our human body, capable of modeling in a veiled and unconscious way many of our behaviors, dreams, thoughts, desires. Freud understood the importance and prominence that sexual desire provides to human behavior, with its influences on the libido, on the unconscious, on subjective mechanisms and primitive forces that shape our daily behavior. Freud said that sex is the social plague, because of repression, everyone is very afraid to talk about human sexuality, deepening the theme that underlies social neuroses. Unfortunately, due to the influence of religions and government policies, we have not instituted a development model that allows human beings to properly use the basic sexual force, of a creative and unrepressive nature, we have opted for an inverse, repressive and neurotic path. Today we already have enough subsidies to change the prevailing concepts about human sexuality. We need greater openness in the academic world in order to implement more enlightening and enlightening policies regarding the true importance of providing better development of human sexuality in a responsible and conscious manner, without the oppressive and limiting characteristics that make the sexual act unsatisfactory for men and women. The prevalence of speed and sexual dissatisfaction is mainly due to the lack of adequate information and education that people receive in relation to healthy and beneficial sexuality. Men in general do not know how to proceed to provide better sexual satisfaction to their partners. Women are also unprepared to improve their performance in sharing the best quality of sexuality.

What did we lose with such fast sexual relations? Is the pleasure less intense? Why? Is the connection with the partner compromised, too? Other points?

Deva Nishok: We lost a lot, we lost everything. Human sexuality goes far beyond the genitals, it begins with smell, taste, sight, hearing, touch. Sexuality permeates the physical senses, has a certain relationship with a very little commented sense, the haptic sense, which acts on neurotransmitters, activating the glands in our body and producing hormones. The body's moods - hormones - are largely responsible for the interpretation and decoding of sensory and motor information, which shape and determine our behavior. As the human species does not benefit from adequate sexual education, we develop incompletely through masturbation. Masturbation offers few development resources, most of them inadequate because masturbation is also not accepted by society, having its repressive and suppressive mechanisms. Masturbation depends on fantasy, imagination. We created a false sexual center located in the brain, which gives rise to a false orgasm, called "Psychogenic Orgasm". This "type" of fantasy orgasm originates in the haptic sense far more than in the experience of the body itself. The body experience is the experience of touching, touching and being touched in an appropriate way, without the anxiety of wanting to reach a quick result, such as getting to penetration, copulation, exposure of the breasts, sucking and impulsively nipples, slapping the face and ass, for many, morbid stereotypes of excruciating pleasure. The body has its own language, it has its own way of producing hormones, adjusting neurotransmitters. Each body has its rhythm, its frequency, its vibration, its pheromone release ... Adequate sexual development, adequate sexual education should transmit this knowledge, preparing the human species to recognize and identify individual sexual signals so that the hormonal adjustments that determine the different phases of sexuality are achieved in their respective modus. Pleasure? there is an absurd number of women - and men too - who take no pleasure in the sexual act. The education of the senses is lacking, the nervousness caused by the performance, the performance, the difficulty in dealing with unpredictable situations, the common affects that stress provides to sexual performance ... Women in general need 40 minutes of adequate stimuli to achieve the best orgasmic conditions, it is necessary to take care in the preliminaries, there is a lot to explore because a body is a system that involves thousands of sensory agents with different types of bodily responses. It is necessary to explore these stimuli without haste, without compulsion. Each person reacts differently to stimuli.

What is the main difference between "conventional" and tantric sex? Is there a greater exploration of the senses?

Deva Nishok: Ordinary, ordinary, conventional sex is focused on the genitals, has penetrative and ejaculatory enhancement, pleasure has ejaculatory characteristics and is very weak, fast, unsupported, pleasure cannot be sustained for more than 7 seconds. yes, that's right, the psychogenic orgasm, conventional to most people, has a very short duration and cannot be sustained by entering into an energetic decline, there is an erective decline in men and mental weakness. The man is unfit for sex. It's frustrating! Tantric sex comes from sensory and body development. Sensory development because as already mentioned above, the physical senses are fundamental for hormonal production and sex is intense hormonal activity. The greater the orgasm, the greater the need for hormonal production. The hyperorgasms produced by tantric sexuality can last 15, 20, 30, 40 minutes in duration. This requires a very high hormonal production that comes from using the physical senses. In ordinary, primitive sex, only the sexual muscles participate in the psychogenic orgasm. As the muscles accumulate the reserve of bioelectricity capable of providing orgasm, the larger the muscle chains that are inserted in the orgasm experience, the more intense and prolonged will be the pleasure and the orgasm. The development in Tantra will allow the person to learn to link all the muscular chains of his body in the experience of pleasure and orgasm. In Metamorfose we developed the concept of Therapeutic Orgasm, a therapeutic procedure capable of providing intense experiences of orgasms and pleasure dissociated from the sexual context. It is an approach that teaches its practitioners and supporters how to tune their body muscles with the experience of pleasure and orgasm. Yes, Orgasm can happen regardless of sexual focus and it is deeply therapeutic. In tantric sexuality, everyone learns to make appropriate and conscious use of the senses to obtain experiences of supraconsciousness or expanded consciousness. Tantric sex fans learn to obtain "Body Orgasm", "Continuous Orgasm", or "Valley Orgasm", which corresponds to having a perennial orgasm, without the common decline in conventional orgasms. Multiple orgasms, ejaculatory and non-ejaculatory, for an incredibly longer period of time than people are used to.

In your interview for the Amor & Sexo program, you suggested that one of the problems of sex is the question of living in fantasy and leaving the present moment aside. Explain better? Fantasy, then, is not as good as we imagine?

Answer: Fantasy has its importance and its context, but we need to learn to deal with the reality of the moment, here and now, putting into action the body's abilities to live up to our expectations. The fantasy can provoke a large volume of energy that will need to be dimensioned in time and space, in the body and in the emotions that are convulsing us now. We will need to adjust to the emotional load and for that we will have to leave the fantasy and be in the present. This is partly a problem because the fantasy creates an energy charge that quickly fades. The ideal is to use both skills concurrently because the two forms used in harmony help us to potentiate results. Sexual development through masturbation alone does not enable us to match an increase in performance that satisfies the best sexual performance. We need to master the instincts with their compulsive and obsessive condition, and to work outside the influence of the genitals, there is an infinite variation of pleasures as important or more important and vital than the genilatization of sex.

Today, sex and penetration are extremely related. But this is just one step, right? What other delights are we leaving out that can help prolong sex and pleasure?

Deva Nishok: This is the primitive view of sex, it is procreative sex, where the penis gets hard so that the sperm is released as close as possible to the eggs, in order to fertilize them. Is penetration really fundamental? the popular myth states that yes, that this is the role of the male, that the female is penetrated ... but that is only a perspective of the macho society ... Today our society has evolved into, for example, homo-affective Love, as it is then LOVE among women? will it never be complete because there is no instrument of penetration? I do not believe, penetration is not necessary for pleasure and orgasm to occur. We need to change our paradigms. Penetration has brought its share of madness and social perversity. We need to learn to insert our body into a new model of sexual and affective reframings. In our research on Metamorphosis we found that there is an incredible ability of the body to privilege the senses, elevating us to the maximum power of pleasure and orgasm without the need for penetration. but look, I am not excluding the possibility of penetration because it also has its value and its importance. For example, the man has a sperm reserve to ejaculate 4 times in a row, and can still ejaculate 4 more times without the presence of sperm. I mean, we can ejaculate 8 times in a sexual relationship. In our practical experiences, in our research, we teach men to ejaculate 4 times in a row in an hour and a half. This is one of the ways to break the primitive conditioning that determines that man only ejaculates once and enters an energy decline that makes him drowsy and non-reactive. This primitive program is the one that comes installed with the organic machine, but we have developed the conditions that allow the body to upgrade the system, teaching the program to run organically in pleasure and orgasm without the frantic need to ejaculate to decline. Partners gain in performance, pleasure and quality of orgasm, infinitely superior to what one is used to. When we learn to enhance sexual hormones, we can consciously interact, with greater responsibility for our pleasure and the pleasures shared with our partners, prolonging the sexual act as long as desired, without the obsessive compulsive characteristic or the manifestation of morbid pleasures, degenerative, aggressive.

You also commented in some interviews that ejaculation is not mandatory for orgasm. Are they different? Talk about.

Deva Nishok: Ejaculation is a neuromuscular "reflex", it is a by-product of muscle functioning. Ejaculation happens due to the action of the ejaculating muscles, adjacent and linked to the prostate. There are ejaculatory processes that are not associated with orgasm. That is, many men ejaculate without orgasm, even without an erection. It is possible to have ejaculations with the flaccid penis, this is relatively common. At Metamorfose we recommend that men in this condition undergo sensory development through our therapeutic massages, they are techniques where we insert stretching maneuvers and rotational axis movements that act within a specific sensory re-educating the senses. Therapists are instructed to work in conjunction with breathing techniques that assist in treatment. Self-masturbation is not recommended as it reinforces the negative triggers linked to the problem. The person needs to experience himself in a condition of absolute passivity, using the cognitive resources of the right brain, reorganizing the sensory and motor functions of his body. All the muscles in our body are spasmodic in nature, they accumulate energy and contract, in the condition of accumulators. When the muscles reach a certain condition by energy accumulation, they release that energy between the muscle chains, sharing in the form of an orgasmic reflex. So orgasm is one thing and ejaculation is another. The two things can happen, together or separately, including for women too, they are also likely to have an ejaculatory action during orgasms. The number of women capable of ejaculation reaches 70% of sexually active women.

I would like you to give some hint of stimuli that can be used as a tool to prolong the time of sex. Can you give it a touch for a satisfying massage (on it and on it)? What about the positions, is there any more suitable for those who want to delay ejaculation?

Deva Nishok: At Metamorfose we offer couples a "script" that improves sexual performance. It is a practice that we call "Delerium - Multiorgastic Training for couples". This training must be done under supervision and it has specific guidelines for women and men as well. this work was developed through practical observations that have taken place for more than 20 years in the development of people, we know what works in a practical way and what doesn't. For example, in oral stimulations in the vagina, the traditional "licks" that men like so much, and that they learned to do through pornographic videos, are little or almost nothing productive in terms of practical and efficient sensory results, are even useless for the most women, many women even lie about false pleasures in such meaningless licks. But (oral) men like to lick vaginas and many women, because they feel nothing, do not accept and do not like oral vaginal stimuli. In the development of Delerium we propose a technique that we call "Clitoral extrusion". It is a maneuver performed specifically on the clitoris, which concomitantly covers a small suction together with a circular pressure with the tongue, varying the maneuvers clockwise and counterclockwise, with the tongue well lubricated. When the maneuver is performed in the right way, there is a vibration that breaks out in the abdominal muscles and becomes increasing, the stronger and more efficient the stimulus, the greater the abdominal vibration until culminating in violent orgasmic spasmodication, which signals an orgasm of great magnitude. Men need to learn to recognize body signals that signal increased pleasure until orgasm manifests. In the same way, few women know the value of a good oral stimulus in the penis. There is also a correct way to act on the penile glans, with small suctions that increase saguineal irrigation and value sensory work. The movements of deep penile stimulation in conjunction with sucking cause an overvalued sensation but which require training in ejaculatory restraint. Other important suggestions are related to the complicity of sexual intimacy, a look that conveys confidence, dignity, respect, that induces the other to surrender to what they are feeling, that transmits support. Smelling is another special chapter of Delerium, smelling the pheromone parts of the body, such as the armpits, the lower part of the breasts and nipples, the sides of the neck, the back of the earlobes, the nape, the vestibules of the junction of the two bands of the gluteus, (the rêgo). Smelling the partner's anus has an incredible effect on the brain, exchanging a fiery kiss after the respective oral stimulus on the genitals. Saliva is a pre-digestive hormone that acts in a very different way on the skin, causing many sensory reactions, caprice in the saliva on the body of your partner. About penetration, don't be in a hurry. Only penetrate after your partner has the lubrication flags sharpened, the vagina must leak a large influx of fluids. Look for more passive positions and allow your partner to explore the positions of revelation of pleasure. Each penis has its own energy, its heat, its hardness, allow it to explore the depths and movements much more beneficial for it than for you, give it space for this exploration, encourage it to discover itself without natural compulsion that many women have, that they have to give pleasure to the partner. The best sex is one that is explored by both, as a unique moment that should be used to the fullest. When sex becomes "Leela", a game in which children discover the magic of ecstasy, it detaches itself from the obligations that the representation of roles - male and female - impose on us.