Tantric Therapy: What is it and how does it work?

When I tell people that I am a Tantric Therapist, their expressions always show a mixture of curiosity and suspicion. And a series of questions follows. The first questions are almost always related to genital massages, followed by how I can “not get excited” witnessing someone in ecstasy in front of me.

In this post I will deal with the first part: What is Tantric Therapy, how does it work and what to expect from it. Later I will write another article about the Tantric Therapist.

1. Tantric therapy is not Tantra.

Yes, although the two practices share the same philosophy, it is true.

I wrote a recent article on what is Tantra as a way of life (you can read it by clicking here). Tantric Therapy uses some theories and practices of Tantra to help interactants become more aware of their bodies and deal with their shadows. However, it also uses other contemporary techniques from Bioenergetics, NLP and body psychotherapists such as Wilhelm Reich or sexologists like Joseph Kramer.

In my view, the techniques developed by these visionaries are nothing more than the Western transmutation of Eastern philosophy of how energy flows in our bodies and how sexual energy (described here not as the energy of sex, but also the energy that gives us vitality, creativity and the will to live) can be elevated in order to spread through the body, activate the other chakras and dissolve unresolved memories of traumas, experiences and / or limits built by an education and a repressive way of life in several senses.

“The message from TANTRA is that, we should have a free, natural, creative and fun life, and not live in a repressed way. Tantra advises to accept us totally as we are, to follow with energy, kindness, love and understanding. According to Tantra, we are all good by nature, and we just need natural growth. Even bad qualities are not mentioned here, as bad or evil. Everything is for good. When we fully accept ourselves, the set of good and bad points, we reorganize ourselves, leading to greater harmony, smoothness and pleasant moments. ” (Osho)

Tantra as a philosophy encompasses all aspects of existence and preaches self-awareness through a libertarian and naturalistic way of life. Nothing is right or wrong for Tantra, but what makes you essentially yourself. No shadows, repressions, taboos, escapes or materialisms influencing your state of being. Tantric Therapeutics must follow the same direction.

2. Promising transcendental orgasms? Be wary.

We see many people promoting Tantric Therapeutics solely as a path to unlimited pleasure. I do not say that this cannot happen, even in a first session, but many times people leave the service room frustrated with an unmet expectation. To link Tantric Therapy with orgasms, in my view, is to have a limited view of a very wide range of possibilities and developments.

We all have our blocks, taboos and limits. Every human being has its shadows and these blocks must be analyzed, respected and worked on to be gradually dissolved.

Reich said that a person can only reach his full orgasmic potential when he has dissolved all his breastplates. So (again, from my point of view) orgastic ability is the result of integrated body work, and should not be taken as an objective.

In my body development work, there are sessions in which there is no touch on the genital, including nudity. However, these practices are just as important or even more so that the body begins to wake up to new sensations.

Interactors report that they feel more sensitive to their partners and begin to have a more relaxed and optimistic day-to-day life. This is the real and transcendental “orgasm”, it is to live life in an orgastic way, relearning to look at your body in an orgastic way.

Because, let's face it, if we had an orgasm the way we know it for 5 minutes we would be praying that it would end. LOL

3. So you mean that Tantric Therapy is not the same thing as Tantric Massage?

No. The famous Yoni and Lingam massages are just one of the techniques that can be used to increase body awareness and increase sexual energy.

Along with them we have a number of massages, many of which do not involve touching the genitals, nor nudity. We also have breathing techniques, body practices and approximately 112 meditations to be used individually, in a group or as a couple.

Influenced by the discoveries and theories of Freud, Jung, Reich, etc., the West, even unintentionally, prepared the ground for Tantra, as they all agreed on one point: That all contemporary insanities at some point are related to sexuality and that Basic man's insanity is driven by sex.

“Chuang Tsu or Gautama Buddha, never used therapy because there was no need. People were just ready, and you could plant the rose buds without cleaning the soil. The soil was already clean.

In these twenty-five centuries man has become so overloaded with rubble, so many weeds have grown in his being that I am using therapy only to clean the ground, remove the weeds, the roots, so that the difference between ancient and modern man is destroyed.

Modern man needs to be made as innocent, as simple, as natural as ancient man. He lost all these great qualities. The therapist needs to help you - but your job is just preparation. It is not the end. The final part is going to be meditation. ” (Osho)

So there is a lot of difference between hiring a massage session and a therapeutic package, where much deeper issues can be worked on. In a single session of tantric body therapy some questions may already surface, but the older breastplates will only be melted with a continuous development work prepared to achieve the specific objectives of each individual.

Many say that genital massages are ancient techniques, but oddly enough they were created no more than 50 years ago. None of the scriptures even mention massage techniques for lifting the Kundalini.

The techniques of genital massages were developed in Germany in the 70s and the Lingam massage (on the penis) as we know it was created by sexologist Joseph Kramer in the 70s, after having contact with Essalen massage and be interested in Tantra, Taoism and bioenergetics. In addition to the theories of Wilhelm Reich and Mantak Chia. So he began to study sexuality as a source of energy.

In the 80s, in partnership with Annie sprinkle, porn actress, prostitute and the first American pornstar to complete a doctoral thesis on the situation of porn stars in the USA, the Yoni (vagina) massage was also created. Erotic massage based on the Taoist tantric philosophy that mixes reflexology, breaths and meditation to increase orgasmic energy

4. What to expect, or rather, what not to expect from a session?

I could be pretentious and write here several things you could expect from a session: A trip to the depths of your being, discovering how to deal with your shadows, being more aware of your body and your pleasure or even incredible orgasms. But the truth is, you shouldn't expect any of this.

Now you must be disappointed there thinking “How can I not expect anything?”

Calm down, young man!

Expecting something creates expectations and expectations generate anxiety, worry and frustration. You are already bald to know this, as it is what you probably live every day.

The process of bodily development and conscious sexuality varies with each person. That is why each session is unique, individual and personalized. In my work method I do a basic online assessment and then we talk more in person. And it is called therapy precisely because of its ordered process of practices and evolution.

We all have specific shadows that must be addressed. More or less old and rooted blocks to be melted. We all have our time and our process that must be respected.

The same touch can bring waves of pleasure to one person and painful memories unresolved in another. One person can leave with resolved points or certainties of what needs to work and another with even more doubts than he entered.

What you can be sure of is: you have taken an essential step to overcome your limits, work with them and have a life of more awareness, empowerment and pleasure.

How will this development take place? Together we will build and discover this journey.

But now, what not to expect from a session?

1. There is no naked or semi-naked therapist.

That is certainly the question I get most.

"I would feel more comfortable if you were also naked."

"Can you at least take your shirt off?"

“I wanted something more tantric. Tantra is about connecting bodies, isn't it? ”

Etc… etc… etc

In all our sexual development we are conditioned to attribute our pleasure to a third party. When, in a circle of friends, you talk about what gives you the most pleasure in bed, the most common answer is "See my partner having pleasure."

Tantric Therapy primarily works on your body, your pleasure and your energy. The therapist is just someone who is helping you to follow this process and it is important to be aware that EVERYTHING you are feeling about the session you can achieve alone.

So it doesn't make sense for the therapist to take off their clothes, because from the moment you transfer your pleasure to someone else's body, the whole treatment went down the drain. You are simply repeating an erotic pattern and are doing exactly the same as when you are watching a porn movie or imagining yourself with someone while masturbating. Or admire the pleasure of partnering while having sex, You are transferring your feelings to a third party while they should be your property.

2. Tantric Therapy treats your sexuality, but does not involve sex.

This is perhaps the main confusion of people: What is the difference between sex and sexuality? And what is the difference between orgasmic energy and orgasm as we know it?

Tantric Therapy works on your sexuality, and through it it can improve your sex life. However, she will never have a sexual bias on her own. We can also list this as one of the reasons that there is no nudity on the part of the therapist, the moment you transfer your pleasure to someone who physically attracts you, you are sexualizing the therapeutic practice, turning your body and mind towards toxic sexuality patterns that must be deconstructed.

But let's go back to the meaning of the words sex and sexuality:

Sex means, in addition to the classification of animals according to their genitalia, the act of sexual intercourse. Oral sex, anal sex, genital sex are all forms of coitus that involve two or more people of the same or different sexes.

Sexuality has a much more complex concept. It involves a set of biological, psychological and emotional reactions that, even based on the instinct of reproduction, in practice have much broader functions.

For example: The way you communicate with other people is part of your sexuality. How you express yourself, how you show affection, how you show your pleasure and your sexual desire.

Did you understand the difference?

When we treat your sexuality we treat YOU as an individual. And your sexuality directly influences how you have SEX with other people, or in other words, how you have sex with them.

3. Expect orgasms the way we know them.

This issue is directly related to the limited view we have of sex. In a Tantric Therapy session you can experience various types of orgasms.

Some you would not even categorize as an "orgasm" such a difference in sensations with what you know as a good "cumshot".

Or you may also have none. And everything is fine.

As we said, orgasmic ability is closely linked to its breastplates and shadows and how they can be treated. Even with genital massage, it can take a few sessions for your body to develop, deal with your blockages and become more sensitive.

The fact is that: With a therapist who is really directing your energy you will hardly have an orgasm like the ones you know. But you will, little by little, experience the full potential of your body and reframe your concept of what an "orgasm" would be. Perhaps expanding it to all spheres of your life and not just the sexual.

Do you have any more questions about therapy? Visit the FAQ from the website. And if you have any other questions you can write me :)

Ok. After all this explanation, what benefits can I expect from the sessions?

Well… .being aware of yourself, your pleasure and your body is priceless.

When you empower yourself with your emotions and your pleasure you become more confident and more independent. Your relationships change, your sexuality changes, your pleasure increases. You know what you want and you start communicating it clearly and objectively, you connect with your essence. Problems of anxiety, depression, abusive relationships and sexual dysfunctions are gradually becoming in the past. Life becomes lighter, free and simple.

Starting to reconnect with your body and its essence is often not easy, because to melt some breastplates we often have to face large, heavy shadows.

But it is worth it, because after suffering we can see life from other angles. Happier, more natural, optimistic and pleasurable.

Most of the time, the interactant already sees differences in the first session, but I recommend a package of at least 5 visits for a deeper and more permanent body development, with practices to do at home and continue the work alone between sessions.

You can check other benefits on the session pages individual and para couples. And for any other questions feel free to send an email or whatsapp.

I hope I have explained well what tantric therapy is and how, in my view, this incredible method of body development works. Like Tantra as an ancient philosophy, this type of therapy has several aspects. So each therapist's method of work can vary dramatically. Research well and talk to the therapist to ensure that your session is fully developed and focused on your questions and objectives.

Namaste.