Hypoactive Desire Disorder – Female Sexual Dysfunction

It's the lack of libido. Sexual dysfunction in which the person lacks sexual desire and interest. It is more common in women, and in this text we are going to deal with them.

It is common for hypoactive desire disorder to have its origin in repressive cultural beliefs that sex and sexuality are wrong, ugly things and that the woman who has freedom in this sense and fulfills her sexual desires is not “to marry”, is not a “virtuous woman”, among many other social visions built in the unconscious and that can have destructive results in the quality of life of many women, since sexual health is such an important part of it and is related to several other areas.

Expressions such as those mentioned below were part of the history of many of us, heard repeatedly and from different people in many spaces we frequent:

• “Close your legs.”

• “Sit up straight”.

• "Right girl don't do that."

• "A woman who behaves like that is not to be married."

• "Men don't value women who wear short clothes."

• “A virtuous woman does not have sex before marriage.”

• “Married women have an obligation to have sex when their husbands want to. It is his right.”

• "It's in a woman's nature to have less sexual desire than a man."

• “You cannot lose your virginity before marriage. It's the most valuable thing you have.”

• "A woman who shows sexual pleasure is a slut."

• “A woman who goes to a bar gets a reputation as a slut.”

• “There are the type of woman to have sex with and the type of woman to marry.”

• “You are very given, very offered, very forward. It will be poorly spoken.”

• “You have to be a family girl.”

• “What a short outfit! It will cover your shame.”

Hearing phrases like these from people we consider as a reference can profoundly influence our formation and can be decisive in our belief system and can generate us:

• Very rigid moral and religious beliefs.

• Ignorance of the ways we feel and can feel pleasure in life.

• Feelings of guilt and shame in the experience of sexuality.

• Difficulties in understanding and accepting sexuality in a healthy way.

• Transmission of a repressive education to children.

• Childhood trauma related to sexuality.

When there are many negative beliefs about sex and sexuality, it is important to do work associated with psychotherapy, to help give new meaning to them and bring the sacredness of this topic to women.

Body work associated with talking therapy can help to change these created models of right and wrong, which gave rise to the disorder. Works involving dance, hip movement, releasing sounds, breathing exercises, meditation techniques, bioenergetic exercises, sensitive massage and yoni massage, can be very powerful tools in the entire process of deconstructing repressive beliefs, in unlocking muscular armor. and in the sensitization of feeling.

It is important to highlight that the continuity of the work makes all the difference in order to obtain good results in relation to all these issues, combined with the commitment of the interagent. It takes delivery, trust, self-responsibility and above all the willingness to take care of yourself and solve the disorder.