a new way of loving
posted by Deva Karuno
Tantra is a bridge between the old way of loving and a new possibility. It is the opportunity to glimpse the impossible. It is kindness and loving intimacy, it is not just a satisfaction, but something that nourishes you, makes you happier and at peace.
Tantra is a bridge between past relationships, which were often built out of obligation or the need to have a partner, whether to have children or simply to be part of what society expected. Marriage has become a necessary institution. Something to keep regardless of the quality of your experience.
But now it's time for something new. Simply having a partner who plays a role is not enough. We are longing for something deeper.
We look for a kind of relationship that expands us. A connection that turns on switches within us. An experience that expands us spiritually and allows us to enjoy our lives even more at the same time.
The tantric connection is felt through the heart. There is no baggage that is passed or that blocks this connection. We choose to be together in any position. This allows us to be perpetually honest with ourselves and therefore with each other, creating a gentle and easy bond.
This opening is possible because we know that we are much more than our personalities and our past experiences. Tantra is a spiritual journey, which gives us the courage and tools to really heal those parts that would keep a distance between us and others.
If the relationship is romantic and sexual, each part naturally polarizes into male or female, regardless of gender or orientation. This positive/negative attraction creates a dynamic relationship that keeps us excited, alive and infinitely peaceful when we come together in full union.
However, in the meantime, we are in a moment of transition. As a whole, the world is not ready for this kind of connection.
There are those in relationships, where one person is in the old days and the other is wondering about new possibilities.
Others are still happy or unhappy in the old paradigm and will remain there at the end of their lives.
But for those looking for a new path, tantra is a beautiful bridge.