You are looking for Tantra for the wrong reason.

Many people think that Tantra is about better performance or how to achieve multi-orgasm in 1 hour. Can we improve our way of relating to ourselves and others? We can! Can we discover new potential through our body? Yea!
In this text, I want to bring a reflection of why you are doing it wrong even trying all the tantric massage techniques or doing that retreat that cost you several trifles and didn't work out in your relationship, most of the time you go so focused on learning a technique that forgets the rest. There's a world for you to explore, but you still only focus on the crack in the door...

The word relationship comes from the root relation, which comes from the Latin relatio. In Latin, relatio means the act of reporting or narrating some situation, or of bringing something back.
Over time, the meaning of the word relationship changed to a connection between two things or people. The word relationship came to describe the act of relating to another person. Source: Etymological Dictionary.

The relationship is an exchange between giving and receiving from both parties, this exchange is based on our emotional needs from affection, acceptance, respect and communication. Communication is the most important tool within the relationship. You can even say it's the chemistry during sex, but it's not. A relationship doesn't just rely on sex for many years.

At the time of conquest, we omit what we are, seeking to be the perfect model idealized to occupy some position that we create in our head (it even looks like a job vacancy), simply because of the fear of judgment of what the other will think, fear of displeasing, fear of being abandoned or rejected.

In other words, we are not doing the basics with the person we freely and spontaneously choose to relate to, which is to communicate simply because of fear of judgment, because of a fear sometimes based on pain that has not been seen and when you go into a relationship or need to talk about something within a relationship, you and 10kgs of unresolved and unseen issues.
It's practically a punch to the jugular, isn't it? I know it hurts...

I know it hurts when you experience a situation and it can trigger you to access other situations that were experienced, but that still left unresolved remnants inside you, maybe at some point, you even thought that it was well resolved, but no understand why life events bring you a situation similar to the other that is similar to the other and so on.

I want to invite you to reflect until when will fantasy fear and neurosis continue to take the reins of your life? Preventing you from living a harmonious relationship with yourself and with the other? How long will it take you to realize that you need to move and do something about it?
As long as we continue to believe in miraculous techniques, let's not look at the root of the issue, which is communication in the relationship. We don't learn to express ourselves through communication, this was not taught at home, in adult life, it is enough for us to relearn the beabá of communication.
What I say is something I live. It's a daily build. I still harbor some fears and with each layer I discover more and more. I breathe, I look at them when I can, whether through therapy, group experiences. I chose to be a therapist mainly to work for myself and maybe contribute to other people's lives.
Tantra comes to bring light to our pains with awareness, conscious relationship is a commitment to your development, whether it's an individual or collective purpose, sexuality is you expressing through your true essence.
More and more you will see me talk more about this vision of relationship because it is the fundamental basis for us to achieve beautiful orgasmic flights and then learn many techniques too! I wish that all beings reach their innermost aspirations!!