What are you ashamed of?

"Our! There's no shame in the face! ”, To that expression so common among us, I say:“ I wish ... It is a goal for me! I want to be well without shame! ”

But what is shame?

Shame is a cultural product. It is a human invention of social control. It only serves to generate guilt in us, that is, nothing positive.

Do you remember when you came into contact with the feelings of shame and guilt in your life? In mine, they were present from a very early age, due to my upbringing. And deconstructing the ideas, patterns and beliefs about them is a daily exercise.

Shame of what?

• From the body itself.

• Not being perfect.

• Not having the beautiful handwriting.

• Not to meet the expectations of a sick, emasculating and repressive society.

• Not to follow a certain religion.

• Not being in the imposed social standard, be it beauty, economic or any other aspect.

• Not being good / good in a certain area.

• To relate to certain people.

• To like what you like.

• Of own or someone else's nudity.

• Of sexuality itself.

• Of desires.

• Of the family.

• Not to feel capable.

• To have done nonsense.

• Having drunk too much.

• To have changed.

• To have allowed yourself to dare.

• To have come out of the box.

• To be ashamed.

• Not wanting to work.

• Not to be accepted.

• The judgments that fall on you.

• Your life values.

• Of dancing.

• To express yourself.

• To loosen up.

• To love.

• To expose yourself.

• Laugh out loud.

• To say what you think.

• To say no.

• To come out in life.

• From your story.

• Of your feelings.

• Not feeling adequate (a).

• Not feeling well.

• To feel inadequate.

• Not feeling enough.

• Not to feel capable.

• His ancestry.

• To exceed yourself.

• To fall in a blow.

• To suffer violence.

• Falling.

• From the genitals themselves.

• To cry.

• Not being willing all the time.

• Etc

There are so many things that we learn to be ashamed of. And if we stop to think that it was all created and we took, received and welcomed it as an absolute truth ...

I propose an assessment of your shame and guilt. Observe them, notice what sensations they bring to you, ask where they come from, to whom they belong ... And give them back. They are not yours. Do not carry them with you.

Look at you with deep respect, focus on the beauty that it is to be you, a unique being, part of all existence, with your own talents and light, that definitely does not need to carry these weights invented for the purposes of social control.

I also propose that you look at how much it has contributed to other people feeling shame and guilt. Do this internal search and allow yourself, without being ashamed of yourself and guilt, to see your attitudes in this direction.

Evaluate them. What kind of sensations does reproducing these behaviors bring you? An idea of ​​superiority perhaps? To be correct in this society? To be worthy of God's love?

Does judging and condemning people demonstrate my virtues or how weak I am and need the approval of others? To diminish the other and make him ashamed satisfy what inside of me?

I think it is worth doing this reflection. And at every opportunity that you realize you are about to contribute to someone feeling ashamed or guilty, rethink and don't do it. There will be nothing to contribute to this.

Instead, would we be able to teach with love and example, rather than harsh criticism and judgment? Respecting people as they are and not wanting to fit them into a model to follow?

I wish an excellent reflection for each one of us and that we can get rid of limiting, torture, repressive shame and guilt that have nothing to add to our lives.