Orgasm - New paths of pleasure

Studies show that about 40% of Brazilian women do not reach a climax, but they are looking for new forms of sexual satisfaction, such as physical activity.

For the French, “the little death” (la petit mort). For medicine, the explosion of hormones. In tantric language, an awakening. To men, a mystery of the opposite sex. For 40% of Brazilian women a myth virtually impossible to be broken. Whoever found it, although less than he would like, knows that it was not easy and the path of stones is not as simple as advertised by so many magazines and women's websites. In other times it was a forbidden word, then it became almost a duty and obligation to achieve it.

The orgasm, which always carries so many mysteries, has knocked on the door of adult women, young and old, in ways previously unimaginable. Of course, when it comes to this subject, nothing is obvious and many aspects (but many of them) are surprising. Proof of this is in the study from Indiana University (USA), released in March, which revealed that 124 women, between 18 and 63 years old, have reached orgasm during physical exercises. Yes! Incredible as it may seem, spinning classes, rock climbing and even weight training have allowed many women to have this unexpected encounter. And that's not all. There are those who have reached their climax through massage and mind control allowing themselves to feel the body's own hormonal work.

Bem Viver went after these stories, heard experts and women who were reborn with the discovery that they can reach orgasm in various ways. “To reach that moment, it is necessary to break many taboos, such as modesty and guilt. The search is individual. If I'm paying more attention to myself, taking care of myself and I'm fine with myself, I can give myself pleasure ”, defends the vice president of the sexology committee of the Medical Association of Minas Gerais, the sexologist and gynecologist Stany Rodrigues Campos de Paula.

It's right there. According to the doctor, women are leaving for the maturity to discover themselves and seek their rights and own desires. “In the past, the wife could not come, she was considered a prostitute. Then, over time, having an orgasm became a must. The one who didn't hit him was not a woman. Then the lies came, ”says Stany.

According to sexologist Gerson Lopes, head of the sexual medicine sector at Hospital Mater Dei, with the changes came, then, the orgastic dictatorship. “The concern started to be about performance. It is market sex, in which you evaluate, weigh and compare, ”he says, adding that, therefore, this long-awaited meeting has to be seen as a right that women have and that they cannot give up. "But caution is needed so that this does not become a duty", he warns.

Personal and non-transferable

Each woman feels orgasm in her own way. Through self-knowledge, many of them are discovering new sensations and the chance to be happier.

There is no recipe, nor is there a single path that will suit all women. Neither sexuality specialists nor psychologists, let alone gynecologists, discovered the formula for this quest. Orgasm is personal and non-transferable. It is variable. There are those who can only achieve sexual satisfaction during the relationship and in the exchange of caresses with the partner. Others do not. The proof that the subject is mysterious and still gives a lot of cloth to mango is in the female discoveries, which point, according to sexologists, a new era for the woman: that of her liberation, turned to the power to reach her desire without having the anxiety for perfect performance.

Who would say, for example, that during a physical exercise it would be possible to have this meeting? This was shown by an unprecedented study from Indiana University (USA), released in March. Researchers Debby Herbenick and Dennis Fortenberry interviewed 124 women who reported experiencing exercise-induced orgasms and 246 others who experienced sexual pleasure also induced by physical activity.

Aged between 18 and 63 years old, they said that the climax occurred while doing exercises like spinning, sit-ups and climbing. The phenomenon has been called by coregasm scholars. The results, published in the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy, showed that more than 40% of the interviewees went through this on more than 10 occasions. Most also said that during the experience, they were not fantasizing sexually or thinking about someone they were attracted to.

Mystery? For the researchers, the data is interesting because it suggests that orgasm is not necessarily a sexual event. "Research can teach us more about the body processes that underlie women's experiences," concluded Debby Herbenick. The activity that most contributed to the phenomenon was abdominal exercises (51,4%). Then there is weight lifting (26,5%), yoga (20%), cycling (15,8%), running (13,2%) and, finally, walking (9,6%).

The analysis is not surprising to Carmita Abdo, a professor at the Faculty of Medicine of the University of São Paulo (USP) and coordinator of the sexuality studies program at USP. According to her, physical activities release endorphins (pleasure hormone) and, in addition, depending on the movement that is made, there is stimulation of the clitoris. “It is logical that for a woman to have an orgasm in these conditions, she must be healthy and predisposed to it. It's not just arriving and entering a gym. The person has to be well with himself, without pressure or moral controls ”, he points out.

So says sexologist Stany Rodrigues Campos de Paula. “We know that, after a certain heart rate, there is the release of hormones, such as endorphins and serotonins. In the exercises there are several repetitions of series and, often, the clitoris contraction ”, he says. The doctor, who is a marathon runner, reveals that during a race she already had the sensation of intense pleasure. “I didn't want to stop running,” he recalls.

Heat wave

This is what has happened to public relations CG, 27, who prefers not to identify himself. During a routine gym class, when doing abdominal, he felt his heart speed up, his breathing deepened and a wave of heat invaded his body. Her muscles vibrated and a sudden burst of energy made her stop exercising. “I never imagined that I would have an orgasm during physical activity. The sensation was so intense that I was ashamed that someone in the weight room had seen it. I sat down, drank water and took a deep breath. It was incredible ”, he remembers, saying that at the time he didn't think about sex or anyone that interested him.

Also afraid to show her face and name, Maria (fictitious name) had this orgasmic encounter, but during a spinning class. She says that, at the time, she was interested in a student of the sport. “Whenever I saw him I was attracted. Sometimes, during classes, I looked at him and saw that he was looking at me. The contact with the bicycle chair made me feel pleasure as the exercises intensified. I used the gas on the pedal and, without anyone noticing it, I felt a wonderful orgasmic sensation there ”, he says. In the opinion of the physiotherapist and professor at the Faculty of Medical Sciences of Minas Gerais and the urogynecology team at Hospital Mater Dei Elza Baracho, the experience goes much further. “Exercises can activate the pelvic muscles. But the woman who is achieving this is certainly fine with her body. ”

Spiritual evolution

"In the relationship we are concerned with giving pleasure to the other, but in massage you get out of control", Juçara Costta, artist and actress

No rush, no anxiety and focus on feeling. It is through this other path, separating mind from body, that many women have reached orgasm through massages, seeking a spiritual evolution from pleasure. It is at the Metamorfose Center, installed this year in Belo Horizonte, that this meeting has been held with hundreds of women and men, through tantric practice. “People still work in the primitive. Pleasure needs to be a sensory refinement ”, comments Deva Nishok, creator of the method and coordinator of the center, which has units throughout Brazil, headquartered in São Paulo.

Disciple of the Indian master Osho, Nishok says that the realization comes with a focus on the sensations and the movement of the basic energy - sexual. Tantric massage sensually activates the chakras and sensitively moves energy, activating centers located on the feet, hands and genitals. “In contact with these values, naturally the behavior changes. The person becomes more willing, optimistic, regains self-esteem and self-love, eager to live intensely. Then she is happy, accepts, cooperates, shares, opens up ”, she defends.

It was in 1996 that Deva created the method. “When the person is stimulated, he combines a hormonal sequence and, at some point, he has a muscular discharge, called an orgasm. In Greek, that means body moods ”, he says, adding that sexual practice is not enough for intense hormonal production. “Thought and fantasies create a type of false orgasm, because the person starts to depend on it to reach a climax. Therefore, what we provoke is the body's own ability to produce pleasure. This is not in the mind. It is simply corporal ”, he explains.

The 50 therapists who work across the country are advised to move away from sexual intent. The procedure is therapeutic. “Our job is to expand awareness. The body produces many components that are related to your feeling of pleasure and well-being, which often fluctuate. The method seeks to regulate these hormones, working with the touches between the muscle chains ”, says psychologist Evandro Palma, tantric therapist and responsible for the Metamorphosis Center in BH. He says that in the capital the demand for the practice has increased among women, who still represent 40% of customers. "There are those who want to experience a new sensation and others who have never felt an orgasm", he defines.

He says that there are women who, with massages, reach an ecstasy that lasts minutes or even hours. “Orgasm is still very much associated with sex. So, when the person has sex, the act itself is impregnated with meanings. If she travels along the established path, she will have what she always had. Our intention is to neutralize these mechanisms ”, he says, adding that we often choose to share pleasure with those we want or love. “But nobody is responsible for our pleasure. Often women are dependent on their partner to get there ”, he criticizes.

Wake up

Plastic artist and actress Juçara Costta, 60, visited the Metamorfose Center in São Paulo and liked it so much that she helped the group to come to BH. Today the center is on the top floor of his studio. As she immersed herself in practice, she says that her first step was to remove beliefs and myths from her body. “We stay in the psychological and it closes the channels of pleasure. I did a body cleaning ”, he says. Thus, she discovered that her body was asleep. “I was stuck with repression. I am a 60 year old woman and I experienced a lot of sexual repression. There was a guilt for allowing that pleasure, ”he says. With the massages, Juçara says he felt ecstasy and fullness. “My body woke up. In the relationship we are concerned with giving pleasure to the other, but in massage you get out of control. It cancels out the mind, starts paying attention to breathing and living in the now. It was almost a gift ”, he says. With the experience, she says that her pleasure with life is much greater. “If sex doesn't happen, it doesn't matter. I am living my sexuality ”, he celebrates.