Endless sex: here is the sovereign recipe for time-consuming sex

Name: Free Tantric Massage Course: Theory and practice in 3 hours
Start: 2023-12-20T00:00:00-03:00
End: 2024-12-31T00:00:00-03:00
Location: Online

published by Carol Teixeira

VIP Magazine

Our columnist goes deep into research and takes five steps on how to prolong time and feelings during sex

Scene: I, after having multiple orgasms caused by the hands of a stranger, am sitting in front of a naked man, also unknown to me, watching him having his cock touched by a woman.

And none of this has to do with sex. Rewind. I'll start from the beginning.

My column was about long sex. I started with the book that was very successful in the USA, not yet translated into Portuguese, Slow Sex - The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm, by Nicole Daedone. The author rocks.

The workshops he usually does there have completely changed the sexual view of many people.

She says that we should get rid of everything we know about sex and acquire a new vision, cleanse sex from all the weights that we attribute to it, from all the addicted vision that we have been obtaining throughout history.

I fully share that view. I feel that we live in a world where sex never goes alone, but it always comes with moral and romantic implications - even when we think or say we don't.

Alongside this comes a weight that in our time counts more than ever: the subliminal obligation of performance (mainly in casual sex, the supposedly freer and lighter version of the practice).

And along with all of this is the greatest nonsense of our time: the fact that we act as if we are all well settled sexually, when there are still thousands of deep and problematic issues, despite all this supposedly liberal discourse that we see in the media, on bars tables in the beds.

Already fascinated by this new concept in the book, I wanted to go deeper. And the way to get more into this idea was to get some practice.

Just talking is very easy. And, if I was questioning the discourse (which totally clashes with reality), I needed to transcend it. I am not a woman who is only in theory. No way!

So, I looked for tantric massage, which, although it was not exactly the practice of the theory I have been reading, had some points in common that interested me.

And it was there, in Metamorphosis Center (tantric center that works with techniques created by Deva Nishok), in São Paulo, I had one of the most intense experiences of my life.

I received the massage from yoni, which aims precisely at transcendence through the woman's orgasm. I had multiple orgasms (yes, they exist), I cried feeling a deep connection with me and the universe and I stayed for a long time with an absurd energy running through my body, something that I felt from tiptoe to head.

Life energy. Imagine you provoke this in a woman? And soon after I found myself in that scene mentioned initially, because I made a point of also seeing this process carried out in a man (the lingam massage).

I just wanted to do a story about female orgasm, that's all. But I ended up totally changing my view of sex. Because sex is much more than sex. Understood?

Here are some tips for long sex. Because if there is a lesson that you will learn from all this, haste, in this case, my friend, is really the enemy of perfection.

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1. Focus on the sensation

Forget what you know. Try to get rid of the addictions you have acquired in your sex life. Sex as we know it generates expectations, judgments, anxieties.

In the end, no one takes full advantage of the experience itself. Samvara, the therapist who did the massage on me, points out that we are used to fantasies, a created pleasure.

The focus on sensation is what brings about the most powerful orgasms. So forget about fears and questions and expectations, feel your desire, focus on your lust and hers, even if it's just one night stand.

Make it intense.

2. Take it easy

For sex to take a long time, one thing that is not strong in the male world is necessary: very calm. Keep that word as the key to everything.

Pashupati, the therapist that I saw as a “model” for Samvara to demonstrate the techniques in the man, said something very interesting: “Normal sex, wild sex, that rabbit-like thing, is just to feel nothing, it is to end quickly . All men have what I call orgasm distress. When it's over, it's like a relief. And that sex leads to emptiness. The man needs to learn to stay on the threshold, having several orgasms, without having the urge to ejaculate ”.

Enjoy the ride more.

3. Map the woman

In the book Slow Sex ..., Nicole Daedone says that in a woman “you touch a point and she feels in a thousand others”.

And so. That's why you don't have to go straight to the point and get there by putting your finger in, already wanting it to touch your dick. Calm down, remember?

Enjoy that you have in front of you a being with many erogenous points. Explore the neck, the shoulder, the belly, the inner thighs.

In my tantric massage, one of the most exciting things was a technique called "sensitive", which consists of something very simple: running your fingertips across the entire body with a very subtle touch, to wake up the body's electricity, and the person taking contact with the energy itself.

Another interesting thing that I felt was almost. Take advantage of the surroundings of the most obvious sexual areas and only then, when she is really crazy, kick for the goal.

Essex, UK, Photo © Brian Rolfe, @brianrolfephoto

Essex, UK, Photo © Brian Rolfe, @brianrolfephoto (Disclosure / Reproduction)

4. Try tantra

See Pashupati's tips: Start looking at her body without desire, without desire to eat, but with attention.

It is an artistic look. Then aim eye to eye, without deviating, without judging, without trying to understand - and without laughing. Stay a few minutes like this, until the relaxation disappears the anxiety.

Then start touching each other with your fingertips, going through each piece of skin, without haste, with admiration.

If you stay that way, you will be less anxious, with less eagerness to ejaculate. If both can relax and breathe, at the time of penetration something new appears.

It is totally different, you can feel every millimeter of penetration.

And if you continue to relax and take your time, when the orgasm comes - and it is likely to come to both of you at the same time - it is an incredible energy explosion, probably never experienced by both.

5. Understand the differences between normal and lengthy sex

Before your next fuck, reflect on this comparison made by Nicole Daedone:

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