Dry orgasm for men: how to have orgasms and not ejaculate?

Your mind may be impregnated with limiting concepts about sex and pleasure. Because we are in a sexist and patriarchal society, we were taught that sex is for procreation, and so we were not taught to have quality of pleasuredo you agree? Where did you, for example, learn about sex or see scenes of exchange of stimuli? The basis of our sex education, if we can call it that, is pornography. This reinforces the thought that sex is penetration. This generates limiting standards that prevent you from having a quality sex life, beyond what is known. Men fail to explore all the orgasmic potential in their bodies! There are a multitude of sensations that can be felt and experienced.

From the way we learn we think that orgasm and ejaculation are the same thing. And it's not! Orgasm is a phenomenon and ejaculation is another, my dear. And yes, it is possible for you to reach them at different times. Even though I was in medicine for many years, I only discovered it 3/4 years ago and it really was that: A DISCOVERY. 

Even more amazed was when I had another lesson! I already knew that women are naturally multiorgastics, but the fact that we men can, too, was a novelty. The men can become multiorgastic through what we call Dry Orgasm, that is, a non-ejaculatory orgasm. Him occurs when you reach a climax without ejaculation being released.

 In this matter, I had to invite an expert and professional on the subject for an initial quality guide. So in a long conversation I received excellent and valuable contributions from the tantric therapist Rajan (@ rajan.tantra). The guy is a master! Let's get to the point, therefore:

1) What is the difference between orgasm and ejaculation?

Orgasm is a neuromuscular reflex. The muscles fill with energy, contract and then there is a discharge of that energy. It is the moment when pleasure and excitement reach maximum intensity. It is the effervescence of feelings. It's the climax.
Ejaculation is the expulsion of sperm through the urethra.

You can have an ejaculatory orgasm, and it's an explosion when it happens. But not always ejaculating means having orgasm and vice versa, you know?

2) What would be the advantage of dry orgasm? (What are the benefits?) 

You can have a higher quality of pleasure with dry orgasms, because can prolong the relationship time. So it means sustaining the erection for a longer time, have greater control of your ejaculation, prolong the pleasure and sensations that are aroused, in addition to expanding your sensitivity. Thus, it is evident that this phenomenon also helps in the treatment of premature ejaculation, and thus, tantric therapy and the learning of the dry orgasm can be a non-drug measure to improve and prolong ejaculation. 

3) Can I control when I'm going to ejaculate or is it by chance?

In Tantric therapy exercises are used to help develop ejaculation control, so it is something that can be learned! This control and achievement of dry orgasm comes with practice, my dear.  

4) What is orgasm exactly, then? 

We already explained on the website about this (READ HERE), with the help of the psychoanalyst Regina Navarro Lins of the AMOR & SEXO program. It must be kept in mind that orgasm consists of a series of bodily and neurophysiological phenomena. And pay attention to this information:

Orgasm is not about sex. He may be totally dissociated from sexual pleasure!

Yeah, have you been thinking about that? In Tantra you access, awaken and develop your full orgasmic potential. You can have an orgasm by eating food that you love, listening to that favorite song, doing a sport.

If there is an opening for this expansion of consciousness and to get out of the patterns we are used to, then it is possible to experience these new experiences

Ejaculation is only related to the sexual act. The ejaculatory sensation caused by the progress of sperm fluid within the genitals depends on the degree of strength of the muscles that support the penis(pubococcygeal muscles), as well as the muscles that contract it, causing the semen to reach the outside of the urethra.

These muscles, if trained, can increase the time of ejaculatory control and, since after ejaculation the penis normally loses its stiffness, this later ejaculation consequently increases the erection time, which in turn increases the time of orgasmic sensation. Thus, dry orgasm may occur, numerous times, and then orgasm with ejaculation. Understood? 

5) How to develop dry orgasm?

Many men have experienced dry orgasm in childhood, when they masturbated, had the height of pleasure but did not yet ejaculate. Was it like that with you? This means that for many men it is not about developing dry orgasm, but just reconnecting with this phenomenon. And those who have not gone through this experience, manage to develop, however. A great tool for this is the experience of Tantric Massage and Tantric Meditation.

Tantra has existed for millennia and we humans, mere mortals, need to learn to enjoy this ancient art and science. I found that Tantra is the most profound knowledge of sexual energy, vital energy. And I hope that we, from the site ModernModel.COM we can share some initial ideas on the subject. Follow our homework to get you started on being a SEX EXPERT:

// HOMEWORK

There is an exercise for the next time you are masturbating. The idea is for you to change the way you do it. We want you imagine the process as an excitation level scale of 5 to 10, where 10 is ejaculation.

The objective of the exercise is to promote sensory re-education for the body, and for the man to have a longer time of pleasure and sensations. This is a way to gradually break the patterns of masturbation and bring more body awareness, opening space to develop dry orgasms. Come on? 

STEP 1 // Start masturbating without thinking or thinking about anything. Just do the mechanical act! And haste is something you shouldn't have. Set aside an hour to two hours in your day for this;

STEP 2 // Go masturbating. Calmly! When you reach level 5 to 7, you are already aroused, masturbating, you already have an erection. THE as the excitement intensifies let it reach a level 6/7 and THEN STOP TOUCHING YOUR PENIS. So, at that time, STOP MASTURBING. You don't have to go to the point of losing your erection. Breathe. Look at the process. Just watch what is happening in the body and touch yourself again.

STEP 3 // Keep masturbating. Gradually change the level of the pleasure scale. Go to level 7, then 8. Masturbate more and then get to 9! 

STEP 4 // Upon reaching level 9 it is time for contemplation. 9 is already very close to ejaculation, so stop again. Hold on, my dear! Breathe a little. Close your eyes. Feel every part of your body. Let the body feel and experience, and then go back to 8 again.

STEP 5 // Slowly masturbate again and move up the scales. Count 8, 9 and then 10. Only now can you ejaculate. At this time, ejaculate the third time and feel all the sensations that happen in your body.

Following these steps, and improving yourself is an excellent start. For the man to have several orgasms without losing his erection, there is a whole technique to be developed and the Tantra teaches you in detail. Invest in learning exercises that make it possible to control breathing and strengthen the muscle of the pubic region,responsible for rhythmic contractions of the pelvis during orgasm.

You will only learn, in fact, if you want to and are open to the possibility of new sensory experiences. The man can have an extending orgasm as well as extend the moment of ejaculation. The thing is to read, learn or invest in tantric techniques with qualified professionals. 

#GoMAN 

Photos / Shane Rounce (@shanerounce) / Laurie-Anne Robert (@laurieannerobert)
Special Thanks Rajan (@ rajan.tantra)